Relationships between a wife and her husband's relatives can rarely be called warm, so use the following tips to keep the peace in the family.
Instructions
Step 1
Never complain about your spouse, do not tell or emphasize his shortcomings in the presence of his family. Even if your husband’s relatives become sincerely sympathetic to you almost always, in the end, they will take the side of your spouse. This can provoke examination of your shortcomings under a microscope, emphasizing certain negative qualities. The wife is a member of her husband's family, relatives will in every possible way protect, defend the point of view of a loved one.
Step 2
Don't ignore important events in the life of your spouse's relatives. Birthdays, anniversaries, anniversaries should be marked on the calendar. If congratulations are limited to a telephone conversation, then instead of simply saying hello through your husband, pick up the phone yourself and say a few warm words. Such an attitude towards the husband's relatives will bring good results.
Step 3
You should not impose your advice in a given situation. Even if you are the best in the business, have a wealth of experience and know how best to act, it is better to delicately remain silent until you are asked for help. Even so, advice should be given carefully and unobtrusively.
Step 4
Be hospitable. You should not deny your husband's relatives who want to stay with you, it is better to be patient, even if their presence is unwanted for you. If such visits are frequent, you can talk to your husband about your discomfort. Speak calmly, without pretensions or reproaches.
Step 5
Try to build relationships with all of your husband's family members. Even if you dislike certain people. Never show your obvious negativity. It is best to take a neutral position. Your spouse spent his whole life with these people, for sure, their opinion is important to him, he will always listen to relatives, so you need to create a good reputation for yourself and try to communicate calmly with everyone.
Step 6
Try to talk less with your husband's relatives about how much your parents, relatives have done for you with your spouse. This can be seen as showing off and dismissive. Such resentments can lead to strained and callous relationships with your spouse's relatives.
