Who, if not children, wants to be the center of attention. Questions pour out of them every day, and every day the child needs more and more and more. Total. But if over time this goes away in normal children, the hysterical child (or the hysterical child) only becomes more and more rooted in his habits. They say about such people that they are mannered, windbags, deceivers and pretenders, bully and arrogant. What if the innocent dressing up of a king as a child could have long-term consequences?
First, you should really look at the child. Perhaps a talented actor is simply dying in him, and there is no need to rush and stick a label with the words "hysterics" on an innocent child. In truly hysterical children, the signs of problems are extreme. Pets of adults, with each new day they demand more and more attention to themselves - it seems that everything is not enough for them. And the individual attitude towards oneself in the lesson, and the fact that my mother does not go to work, but rushes with him twenty-four hours a day, and the fact that they are praised for every little thing. They demand more and more, and at first it is not so noticeable. However, over time, this behavior grows beyond all boundaries. Tantrums when a parent speaks on the phone, yelling and swearing when they do not what they need, the desire for power, jealousy worthy of Shakespeare in friendships at school. Do not close your eyes to alarming calls and opinions of others.
Secondly, one should not make the navel of the Universe out of the child. This advice applies to all happy owners of offspring, but in relation to a demonstrative child, you need to raise this thought to the level of worldview. The praise so often poured out of the lips of parents about the slightest achievement and complete ignorance of the child's sins will lead to the fact that adulthood will be a blow for him, because no one will bow to his feet at the university, university teachers will not consider a star in an exceptional child without real skills or knowledge, and a conflict will certainly ripen. Not to mention the fact that no one will tolerate an overly arrogant employee at work, confident in his infallibility. So praise should be in moderation, and only for real achievements.
Third, it is important for parents to monitor the emotional background of the family. From an early age, a child demonstrator learns to deceive, adjust situations, play on feelings and emotions. Parents should learn to say no to tantrums, screams and crying. To see when the child is right, and when it's just a scene. Yes, in such cases, mothers' hearts simply burst with pain and resentment for their wonderful child, and even their beloved husband is perceived as a fiend of hell. But a hysterical child, having received what he wants, be it a toy, attention or even a scandal between adults, will come to a complacent state and reward all the losers with a victorious smile. Only firmness of character, a joint position with a partner and a categorical refusal, without repetitions, beliefs or attempts to agree, will work in such situations.
And, fourthly, in the development of such children, it is necessary to focus on helping others. Increased egocentrism, as a rule, manifests itself in the fact that the child only does what he thinks about himself, forgetting about others, and every year this is more and more like a mania. Compassion, altruism and concern for one's neighbor are alien to such children, therefore, the child's attention should be unobtrusively drawn to the affairs of others, their emotions or feelings. However, defiantly depriving one's own son or daughter of attention is fraught with an internal conflict of an egocentric child, the questions "Dad, don't you love me?" and the next round of manipulations and childhood traumas. It should show that his feelings are important, oh yes, but the feelings of others, especially mom or dad, have equal weight.
