The feeling of love gives wings. The time spent with your loved one seems wonderful. The desire to constantly be with the object of love prevails over the mind. And only over time, the veil begins to fall from the eyes, revealing the real image of a person.
Stages of love
Psychologists managed to identify the main stages of falling in love. At the first stage, a specific person is singled out from the crowd. At the sight of him, the heart begins to beat faster. All thoughts are occupied by him. At this stage, there is still no real relationship, and the feeling of falling in love is blooming.
Delight is replaced by doubts about the reciprocity of feelings. There is a readiness for a relationship. There is a desire to please, to constantly be in the field of vision of the object of love.
After the first date is set, there is a euphoria of reciprocity. This feeling is dazzling, breathtaking. There is a desire not to leave a loved one, to enjoy being close to him. Consciousness sees only its positive qualities.
The object of falling in love seems almost ideal. And sometimes one or another suspicious detail that appears immediately fades into the background and is not taken into account. The thought of re-educating a loved one, if necessary, easily arises.
Over time, the qualities of a loved one begin to be perceived in real light. At this stage, pluses often turn into minuses. It is revealed that the other half does not at all seek to change. The first quarrels begin to arise.
At the next stage, either a break occurs, or the relationship moves to a completely different level, called love. In the second case, the couple, while continuing to admire each other, gradually learns to accept the negative sides of their soul mate as part of her personality.
The duration of love and its pathological form
According to scientists, the state of falling in love can last from 12 to 17 months. This time is often enough to get rejected or to achieve reciprocity. But the state of emotional dependence can last for a very long time, bringing more feelings of suffering than joy.
There are people who tend to fall into the aforementioned emotional addiction. In most cases, these are people with low self-esteem who begin to feel fulfilled only around someone. They cling to the one who is nearby, even if they are absolutely not suitable for each other. The situation is aggravated when there is a tendency of the object of love to manipulate. This relationship can last for years. This kind of love can be classified as pathological. In some cases, only a psychologist can help to get out of this state.
