Most men, trying to make up, pretend that there was no quarrel. But you need to be clear about the fact that there was a conflict and needs to be resolved. This is the most important moment in the relationship between a man and a woman, which in the end either divorces them in different directions, or helps to understand how much they need each other, how respectfully and carefully one should treat the feelings of a partner.
Instructions
Step 1
Feel the soil. Worrying about a quarrel or even a breakup can call into question the beginning of a possible reconciliatory conversation. Therefore, talk to close friends and acquaintances of your girlfriend in order to find out as accurately as possible what mood your girlfriend is in.
Step 2
If you really understand that she is dear to you, then make it clear to her that you intend to make peace and improve relations. If a meeting, telephone conversation, SMS correspondence are impossible, do not hesitate to contact a third party whom you trust as yourself. Write a letter or note. Try to write sincerely and don't worry too much if you suddenly make any spelling mistakes. What is important here is something else: you are trying to maintain your feelings and restore mutual understanding.
Step 3
Be persistent. Often, offended girls do not make contact for a very long time, even if they are ready to forgive. As you begin a difficult, conciliatory conversation, let your girlfriend pour out her accumulated resentment and anger. Don't say a word until she speaks. Choose the position of the most gallant listener and end your girlfriend's accusatory tirade with your well-thought-out and clearly pronounced conciliatory phrase.
Step 4
Don't expect to be forgiven right away. But use all available means to make up. An ancient and very effective way is to remember a past relationship. Remind your friend how fun and good it was together. Keep in mind that lately she has been doing the opposite: proving to herself that your relationship is over. Be prepared to reverse this process.
Step 5
Get her smile instead of grins and ironic remarks. Of course, a smile does not promise complete forgiveness, but it is not so little. It's time to start surprising your girlfriend. Prove to her that you are capable of fulfilling any of her wishes, of course, within reason. Puzzle your friend with unexpected surprises and gifts, let her feel how upset you were by the quarrel that happened, tell her about your feelings and thoughts. She will definitely understand and feel that there have been changes for the better in your relationship.
Step 6
Call on jealousy for help. Of course, this is not the best way, but sometimes it works. Chat with a pretty girl. Set yourself a task - to inflame jealousy and the instinct of the owner in your friend, but no more, so as not to inflict psychological trauma on her and finally ruin the situation. Of course, after this, difficult explanations lie ahead, but at least your conversation will take place.
