A person sometimes has to ask serious questions. For example, if he is very concerned about something, dissatisfied, or he needs to do away with ambiguity, uncertainty. But in order to achieve a direct, frank answer and at the same time avoid misunderstandings or even quarrels, such questions must be asked correctly.
Instructions
Step 1
Remember, a serious matter requires an equally serious approach. If you want to ask something from your household, think over the words in advance with which you will start the conversation. Do not be frivolous, presumptuous. It is better to replay the conversation in advance, providing various options for answers.
Step 2
Choose a convenient moment for the conversation. For example, let's say you want to ask your spouse a serious question. In no case should you have a responsible conversation in a hurry, on the run, or when you need to do some urgent work. Avoid serious dialogue even if your husband is clearly out of sorts or just tired at work. Try to ask your questions at a more appropriate time.
Step 3
In any situation, keep your cool, be sure to follow the rules of good manners. In no case do not ask questions aggressively, harshly. Refrain from accusatory bias. After all, you are not an investigator interrogating a suspect. If you behave aggressively, you will simply not be able to have a frank conversation due to the tense environment. Your interlocutor will feel offended and will fundamentally shy away from an honest and direct answer to the question posed.
Step 4
Ask questions as briefly, politely and calmly as possible, speaking only to the point. Be sure to explain and emphasize that you asked these questions for a reason, not because of harm, and even more so not because you want to put someone close to you in an awkward position. It's just that he is very dear to you, you love him or respect him for his human qualities, so you want there to be no ambiguities, omissions between you. With this approach, your serious questions will be treated without enthusiasm, but certainly without outright hostility.
