When relationship problems arise, couples often find that the best way to solve them is to talk to each other.
But in many cases, couples do not know how to properly talk about problems, and the relationship only gets worse.
There are two main ways to discuss a problem: direct blaming the partner versus a calm hearing. Unfortunately, most couples use the first method when trying to resolve a conflict.
Instructions
Step 1
Direct accusation.
Many people during an aggressive state believe that it is their partners who are to blame for this. Such accusations, as a rule, do not lead to anything good, since the essence of the problem is not solved, and the partners simply insult each other.
The result of the ongoing accusations will be as follows:
• increased coldness in relationships,
• less understanding and more dissatisfaction, • lack of a real solution to the problem, • growth of future conflicts.
Step 2
Calm proceedings.
The best way to solve relationship problems is to focus on yourself and not on your partner's fault.
For example, if your partner has a habit of coming home late, don't blame him. You won't solve the problem. Just tell him that you are sad that you are constantly alone at home, you miss your partner, but he always comes late. Believe me, this way the problem will be solved many times faster.
Step 3
The main thing is never to place the blame on a loved one, even if he is wrong. Long-term practice has proven this 100%.
By focusing on your feelings rather than your partner's behavior, you will achieve the following:
• your partner will listen to you, • you will be able to discuss problems more calmly,
• closeness and understanding will increase between you, • there will be fewer conflicts.
