Are there families without quarrels? You will be surprised, but there are. However, this does not mean at all that such a family is happy, rather the opposite. We figure out how this can be and why spouses need to swear.
Many people believe that there are ideal families. Both spouses love and understand each other, there are simply no reasons for quarrels. But this is impossible. The reasons for calmness and peace in the family lie elsewhere.
1. The conflict is hidden very deeply, the spouses are indifferent to each other. Everyone lives on their own, but for some restraining reasons, they do not get divorced (children, property, etc.).
2. Spouses have long and happily lived together, they understand each other, each has their own responsibilities, they respect each other, spend time with benefit and pleasure. Even if there are conflicting moments, both spouses prefer to instantly extinguish the conflict. The downside of such moments is the silence of problems, the accumulation of stress, which sooner or later will probably lead either to depression of one of the spouses, or to the development of a large-scale scandal.
3. The spouse avoids conflicts, he just does what the wife wants and says, he has his own opinion, but he does not express it.
4. The spouse agrees with his wife, because he is not interested in family affairs, he has his own more exciting hobbies. He assent to his wife, without going into details.
5. The spouse does what he sees fit. The wishes and opinions of the wife are not even taken into account. According to the principle "the dog barks, the caravan moves on."
6. The spouse is not self-reliant and dependent on the opinions of others; he can do something only under the careful guidance of his wife.
These are the pitfalls in a family without conflict. Any suppression, containment of problems and negativity within oneself, only lead to larger-scale problems. Therefore, conflict is not always a bad thing. Small quarrels in the family must be present. But loving people should know when to stop, understand the essence of the conflict, not forget about mutual respect and jointly seek ways to resolve the conflict.
