In the old days, women preferred to close their eyes to the betrayal of their husband, and if they left, their act was subject to public censure. In modern society, morals have become much freer, so a woman can choose whether to forgive the traitor or terminate the relationship.
Not everything is lost
According to some psychologists, cheating is just one way to escape from problems that have arisen in a couple. This is an opportunity in a veiled form to reach out to a partner, to demonstrate to him that the relationship is in a crisis, something needs to be changed. At the same time, the unfaithfulness of one of the spouses can destroy the family, or, on the contrary, will contribute to its strengthening and improvement of mutual understanding in the family.
For some, cheating is like the end of the world. Do not think that you cannot forgive treason. However, the point here is not only acceptance, but also the ability to draw conclusions from the current situation. It is important to understand what prompted the partner to take such a step? Why did he decide to look for something new on the side? Do you want to still be together? If the answer to the last question is yes, then what should you do to learn to hear each other? What needs to be changed in the relationship? How to build a dialogue when it touches on rather intimate topics?
A rather important role is played by the moment when the betrayal occurred. If we are talking about starting a relationship, this is probably due to a fear of responsibility, a subconscious unwillingness to start a family. The usual tendency to hide and run away. If we are talking about a long-term relationship, most likely, the partner is looking for new sensations (including sexual ones), mutual understanding, and care on the side. Usually in such families, people have already begun to take each other for granted, have ceased to appreciate what they have. You will have to discuss such points if you intend to save your family. In this case, the willingness of both men and women to work on problems is very important. You will need to get to know each other in a new capacity, reconsider your values and habits and lay a new foundation for your family happiness.
There is no turning back
If cheating for you is synonymous with betrayal, then you are unlikely to have the strength to forgive her. Betrayal is not forgiven. Even if you manage to mend the relationship, the resentment will remain deep inside and will constantly come out.
It is very important here not to ignore your emotions and experiences. Don't be afraid to tell your significant other about them. Observe how the counterpart reacts to all this, what actions he takes, how he tries to make amends. And most importantly - think, can you still trust your partner? If nothing can be done, the best solution would be to part and start a new chapter in your life.
