Some parents unreasonably consider the child as personal property, denying him the opportunity to have his own opinion. Some children resignedly obey the will of their parents, others continue to insist on their own, showing the so-called stubbornness.
The birth of a child is a sacrament, as a result of which an independent personality is born. If the parents from the very beginning will position the relationship with him as an equal member of society, the problem of stubbornness will not arise.
A child's stubbornness is a reaction to parental dominance.
What is childish stubbornness
In Dahl's dictionary there are several synonyms for the word "stubbornness", among which one, which most accurately characterizes this behavioral factor in the case of a child, is original, that is, it protects its own individuality.
The stubbornness of a child differs from adult stubbornness and is aimed, first of all, at self-assertion of oneself as a person.
A priori, there can be no talk of stubbornness in early infancy. All the whims of this age are associated with physical or psychological discomfort.
At about the age of 2-3 years, the child begins to realize himself as a person, at this time he stops calling himself by name and begins to use personal pronouns in relation to himself.
At this age, he makes attempts at self-affirmation, which can be perceived by adults as whims or stubbornness.
How to deal with a stubborn child
First of all, from the first days of a child's life, it is worth treating him as a person who, so far, cannot do without the help of adults. It may seem paradoxical to some, but there should be no prohibitions in the family for a child. The ban should only be that which poses a danger to life and health, and the ban should be motivated and illustrated.
Folk wisdom says that a child does not ask for gold. Up to a certain age, all the child's desires are associated with the satisfaction of needs, among which are curiosity and the desire for communication. By learning to guess the true reason for stubbornness, a parent will forever relieve himself of the need to indulge in whims.
If the situation is out of control, time is lost and stubbornness has become a habit, then it is worth recalling the laws of physics, which are sometimes applicable to human relations.
Action is equal to reaction. In an adult-to-child relationship, the adult is by far the stronger in terms of life experience. Manifesting attempts at self-assertion, the child does not understand what is happening to him, and the adult's task is to make sure that the transition period passes without prejudice to the formation of the personality.
You should not allow yourself to be manipulated, just as you should not insist on fulfilling your requirements. If an atmosphere of love and respect reigns in the family, there will always be a possibility of a compromise solution to any issue.
If the family is restless, then the problem of the child's stubbornness is secondary, and first it is necessary to regulate family relationships.
