Family conflicts are fraught with the threat of breaking off relations. How to avoid quarrels and how to sort things out correctly?
Instructions
Step 1
Often family quarrels become commonplace, commonplace. Spouses put up with this, mistakenly believing that this is a normal phenomenon that is present in all families. Without doing anything, the smallest problems turn into scandals, at the end of which, having dropped the emotional load and aggression, the spouses remain each with their own opinion. It is necessary to understand that quarrels are not the norm in family relationships and all conflicts that have arisen must be resolved to the end.
Step 2
If your significant other has not fulfilled some obligations, did the wrong thing, and you are ready to flare up, calm down. It is necessary to find out the relationship in a quiet atmosphere, calm, balanced tone. So the necessary information will reach your spouse faster, and will not cause a response, heightened tones and aggression. Ask what the reason for this act is. Say as a fact that it was unpleasant for you, it upset you.
Step 3
It is imperative to find ways to solve the problem that has arisen. Offer your options, listen to the opinion of the second half, let them speak and voice your solutions. Acting in this way, there will certainly be a compromise and a point of contact. The main thing is to show that you are solving the issue together, each opinion is taken into account.
Step 4
It is also important when discussing the problem to admit that both are to blame. So the process of resolving the conflict will go faster, and you will save a lot of time and nerves that are wasted on mutual accusations. Decide if you want to dump steam or resolve an issue.
Step 5
When figuring out a relationship, do not get personal. Discuss the problem, the specific action, and not the moral qualities of your spouse. Respect the opinion of another, let them speak and explain everything from a different point of view.
Step 6
Often, petty, daily fights are only a consequence of more serious problems. Accumulated resentment, difficult financial situation and more. If you do not find out the main reason for the constant irritation, family life will become unbearable. Understand yourself, talk frankly with your significant other about the root of all small scandals. If the reasons are complex enough, you can contact a specialist who will analyze your situation and help you put everything on the shelves.
