When a man falls in love, he is in a state of happiness. He wants to eat less, sleep less, he just wants to hover above the ground. And the most important desire is to spend as much time as possible with the object of love.
What women fall in love with
Why a man fell in love with one and not another woman is impossible to understand. If we talk about falling in love, from which there are “butterflies in the stomach” and the whole world plays with bright colors, the heart beats faster, and thoughts are formed in verses. Theoretically, this feeling arises when a man subconsciously catches reciprocity and the prospect of being enveloped in attention.
Falling in love is not love yet. Falling in love is like drug intoxication, when a man does not notice any flaws at all. For him, every feature, every movement of his beloved seems ideal. This is the first stage that relationships go through with an eye to the future. This does not happen for everyone and not always. Usually they say that this is "love at first sight." More often, falling in love comes in a completely different way. This is a different process when people love for something, and not under the influence of some unknown factors.
Stages of love
In total, psychologists define 8 stages in the development of relationships after the first acquaintance.
First, a man evaluates his appearance. He looks to see if she is suitable for a certain, only suitable type for him. Sometimes it happens that I always liked blondes with blue eyes, and here a brunette, but she definitely likes it. In any case, the first thing a man sees is the wrapper. And only then he decides whether to open the inner world of this wonderful creature.
If the woman interested him, the next step is the intention to enter into a relationship. What kind of relationship it will be depends on the level of the woman. With someone you want to start a family and raise grandchildren, and with someone you have enough sex on the first date to lose interest forever.
When the decision to start a relationship is made, attraction appears. At this stage, the man looks after beautifully, tries to develop communication in order to please. He will do everything for the woman to respond with mutual interest. He will call, write, ask how you are doing. All his thoughts are occupied by the lady he likes.
Next comes heavy artillery. A man will do everything to impress and be the center of attention.
When a woman begins to open up little by little, he looks to see if the choice is right. But it focuses more on feelings, and not on common sense. Realizing that attraction only increases, he does everything to win the favor of the woman. When sympathy becomes mutual, attempts to win the lady of the heart continue.
Meetings are becoming more frequent, and the man is already beginning to think about continuing the relationship. About family. Highlights the advantages and disadvantages of getting married with this particular woman. However, he is not yet able to assess rationally, since falling in love darkens his eyes, and the chosen one has not yet shown all her shortcomings. If you marry according to cold calculation, then you need to marry on shortcomings. Because with some you can put up, but with some you can not. And if one calmly reacts to the constant disorder, then the other will not be able to live with it. As a result, there will be constant quarrels that will lead to divorce.
At the next stage, the man is convinced whether his desire to legitimize the union is mutual.
And if the desire is mutual, partners are already beginning to look at each other not just as an object of desire, but as the most dear and close person. As you know, a husband and wife have a zero degree of kinship. If you look at the Bible, it says that two will become one flesh.
When a man is ready to take responsibility for a woman and start a family, this is the last stage of falling in love, from which the path to true life-long love begins.
Feelings and behavior during the period of love
The woman is emotional, the man is more restrained. Therefore, you should not expect too strong an emotional component.
But, as it was precisely noted in Agatha Christie's book "The Secret of the Blue Train", when a man pretends to be in love, he tries to be cheerful, gallant, to show all sorts of attention. But if he is really in love, he is like a sheep. Perhaps it is. Behavior is changing. A successful, purposeful man turns into a soft and pliable man. When his beloved is not around, he is not interested in anything. He mirrors the gestures and behavior of the chosen one.
