Family relationships are painstaking, complex work that requires the right approach. Unfortunately, there is no cloudless family life. Conflicts, serious and not so, occur in many couples. The stability and strength of family ties will depend on the correct resolution of quarrels and disagreements.
Instructions
Step 1
It is important to identify the cause of your conflicts. When you argue, the situation escalates, you should mentally take a step back and try to understand why it happened this way and not otherwise. Perhaps the cause of the discord was a bad mood, depression, ordinary fatigue, which makes a person depressed, nervous and tense. If you have determined that the cause of the conflict is an oversight of your other half, you do not need to immediately raise your voice and blame only him for everything, because two people are building a relationship, and part of the blame lies with you.
Step 2
Reason found. Now it is important to work out the problem and come to a joint solution. This will take you some time. You cannot bypass the problem and pretend that nothing is happening. If one of the spouses has complaints against the other, then it is worth discussing them.
Step 3
When discussing an issue, you should express your opinion on the conflict and listen to your partner's arguments without interrupting or raising tones. Speak honestly and frankly so that your other half understands the essence of your discontent, and in order to avoid such negative situations in the future.
Step 4
The hardest part is to come to a consensus. Living in marriage, you need to work out for yourself a kind of system of checks and balances. Simply put, sometimes you need to go towards each other and give in. So, for example, if your spouse does nothing around the house, then you should make a list of things that he will do on his own and a list of things that you will do together. Both people must follow the decision made and not go beyond the established framework, otherwise a long way will be passed in vain. Keep working on joint problems.
Step 5
Calm conflict resolution is a healthy way to resolve all family problems. However, it sometimes happens that it is impossible for the spouses themselves to resolve the current conflict situation, so it would be more expedient to turn to a qualified specialist - a psychologist. With special skills, it is easier for a psychologist to find a way out of a conflict. You are addressing a completely independent person who is impartial in his judgments and conclusions.
