It is almost impossible to meet a family in which there are no scandals at all. There are a few simple rules that will help you stop screaming to solve problems that have arisen. And if it was not without a scandal, then you need to learn to forgive mistakes and insults to relatives.
What does it mean to forgive an insult?
It is important to understand that forgiving an offense does not mean forgetting it or agreeing to repeat it. This does not mean that you have to admit that this offense was acceptable to you, and not the fact that it will not happen again. You must be aware that the first thing you suffer from resentment is that you feel tension and anger. You imagine what you will say to the abuser or what you will do to punish him. When you can't find the strength to forgive the offender, the resentment will eat you up. And instead of enjoying the joys of today, you are upset about what happened yesterday. Therefore, in this case, your calmness will be the best revenge.
Know the enemy by sight
On a piece of paper, list the grievances that you need to forgive, you should know exactly what events hurt you.
Determine the culprit of what happened
You must fully assess your responsibility for each event that occurs. Did you contribute to the scandal? You had to leave, but you didn't want to retreat and stayed? If the answers are yes, then you are also responsible for what happened. And only full awareness of this will help you to quickly give up your grievances.
How to let go of resentment?
You can learn to forgive resentment only after you mark the next rule - resentment is a useless feeling. This is a thankless and fruitless process. There are times when the resentment remains inside you, trying to become a kind of punishment for the offender. And in fact, many people use the feeling of resentment only because they like to be offended, they see an opportunity to get some benefit in resentment.
If you understand that you are ready to forgive the offense, try to imagine the image of the offender in front of you, try to tell him: “I forgive you,” wish him good luck and try to free yourself from emotional dependence. It is also fashionable to come up with some kind of ceremony for yourself that can free you from resentment. This ceremony should not only free you from resentment, but also put an end between you and your experiences.
