To endure insults from her husband is perhaps the worst thing a woman can do in this situation. However, responding with aggression is not the best way out. To once and for all solve such a problem in her family, a woman must show wisdom and be able to find a middle ground.
Husband abuse: reasons and solutions
To solve the problem, you first need to understand the reasons for its occurrence. It is common for men to insult their wives in an effort to protect their living space. In this way, they respond to requests not to linger after work, not to go fishing with friends and to other moments when the wife, from their point of view, introduces unpleasant prohibitions. In this case, you can try to negotiate with your spouse, to clarify the situation.
Consider if you are provoking your husband to insult. If so, you should correct your behavior and be sure to discuss the problem with your spouse.
Men who are dissatisfied with their marriage or their life in general often prefer not to talk about what worries them, but to harass their wife with humiliation and insults, ripping off evil on her. You cannot tolerate such treatment, but you can try to calm your husband down and explain to him that his words only worsen the situation, and do not help to solve the problem at all.
The most difficult and unpleasant case is when a man offends his wife simply because a similar model of behavior was adopted in the family of his parents. An experienced psychologist can correct the situation in this case.
How to respond to insults
If your husband begins to offend you, you should first try to talk to him calmly. There is no need to raise your voice or even more humiliate it in response. Say that you would like to have a calm conversation, that insults are very upsetting to you.
Sometimes it is simply not possible to move on to a constructive dialogue. In this case, you can either ignore the man's words, or even leave the room or even leave the house in order to calm down yourself and not allow to offend you further.
Discuss the reasons for his behavior with the man. Ask him to explain why he does this, and talk about how unpleasant it is for you to hear insults. No need to blame or scandal. If your husband is still too angry and can't talk calmly, think about what your actions he is reacting to aggressively. Maybe you hurt his feelings or offended him in some way? In this case, the problem can be solved by changing your behavior and explaining to your husband that it is better to replace the insults with simple and calm phrases about what does not suit him.
If conversations, behavioral changes, talking to a therapist, and ignoring haven't worked, and your husband continues to mistreat you for no reason, it may be time to think about breaking up. Letting a man hurt you and keep a family in which the spouse does not love, but offends his beloved, is not worth it.
