There are many reasons why family relationships are deteriorating. It can also be fatigue from everyday life and constant worries about the well-being of the family. But most often the relationship deteriorates due to the lack of understanding between the spouses. Some people lose interest in each other over the years, only affection and habit remain. Many in this situation get divorced, and few are trying to get the relationship back on track. Meanwhile, it is quite possible to change relations with a husband or wife for the better. The main thing is that there is a desire.
Instructions
Step 1
The first thing to do is get your spouse to have a frank conversation. Sit down together and calmly discuss your relationship. Express your doubts, torments to him, let him also tell him what does not suit him or worries him. Try to maintain a calm tone throughout the conversation. Even if something does not suit you in the behavior of your husband, you do not need to shout at him because of this, and even more so to insult. All your claims should be reasoned, since it is easier for a man to understand a logically built chain of reasoning than arguments based on emotions. A good, well-structured conversation can be the starting point for a better relationship.
Step 2
Bring something new and different to your family life. It could be a weekend trip for two to some romantic place, or a trip to a restaurant. The modern world offers a huge selection of hobbies and hobbies, among which you can find something that will interest you both, bring you closer to each other, and make your family life brighter.
Step 3
Often, relationships in families deteriorate because people think that they know everything about their partner, and he cannot offer them anything new. Because of this, interest disappears. But each person is a book that you can read all your life, but never reach its end. Take a closer look at your husband, and you will surely find in him something interesting and unknown to you. And you yourself try to open up to your spouse from an unexpected side for him. To do this, talk more, take an interest in each other's interests and hobbies, affairs at work.
Step 4
Change yourself. Go to a beauty salon, get a haircut, change your hair color, your clothing style. Sign up for a gym. A man, no matter how old he is, always wants to see a well-groomed, stylish woman next to him. And if you cannot be called that now, then, most likely, the reason for the cooling lies precisely in this.
Step 5
If your appearance is okay, then the reason may be that your husband has nothing to talk to you about. Especially, this situation is typical for housewives. The husband constantly rotates among other people, communicates on work and other topics, constantly somehow develops, and the wife is mired in caring for children and household chores. Common topics of conversation simply disappear for spouses. Correct this situation. Take an interest in what's going on in the world, not just in your apartment. Take some courses, maybe it's worth going to work, not so much for the money as for your own development. Become interesting in terms of communication. Your man will definitely appreciate it.
Step 6
Pay attention to the sex side of your life. How often do you have sex with your husband? How big is your desire? If the answers to these questions are disappointing, then something urgently needs to be changed in this regard. Again, you need to start with a frank conversation. Find out with your husband what you lack in intimacy, how you wanted to see this relationship. And then, starting from the result of the conversation, try to establish the sexual side of your life. Perhaps it will be enough to diversify the poses used, or you want something more original. Do not be afraid to talk frankly about this topic, as the future of your family may depend on it.
