We do not touch upon a controversial topic - is friendship between a young man and a girl possible at all? We simply proceed from the fact that it is really possible and can be wonderful and useful for the growth and development of the personality of both - both boys and girls. We want to help the young man to make friends with the girl who interested him by proposing specific steps for this. Whether after this love will arise between them depends only on themselves. It's about friendship in real life, not on a dating site or on social networks.
It is necessary
- - determination;
- - confidence that you are interested in just friendship, and not love or sex;
- - object - a girl with whom you would like to establish friendly relations;
- - time and opportunity to study the range of her interests;
- - an objective comparison of her interests with yours;
- - time and opportunity for remote communication (telephone, internet);
- - time and opportunity for personal meetings;
- - companies and events for joint leisure;
- - companies and events for joint work;
- - desire and ability to help her in solving her problems.
Instructions
Step 1
Get to know her. Just ask her name on occasion and tell her your name. If she smiles in response, the contact is established, and your friendship has a future. If she puts on a sour face and pretends to neglect you with all her appearance, this is not the girl who is worth spending time and energy on.
Step 2
Demonstrate in any way that you are interested in communicating with her. Suffice it to say: "You know, I did not like the fourth" Transformers "at all … The main thing is that the phrase presupposes the continuation of the dialogue, arouses the girl's desire to object or discuss your words. And be sure to let her understand that you are not indifferent to her opinion.
Step 3
Take her to the nearest cafe for a cup of coffee. Or offer to drink a glass of juice. But do it not on purpose, setting the time and place, as if it were a date, but as if by chance, spontaneously. Don't make her think that you are caring for her, with all the complications that come with it.
Step 4
If she says that she doesn't want to spend time with you because she has a boyfriend, immediately emphasize that you are not a competitor to her boyfriend, that you will be happy to meet him as her friend. When meeting her boyfriend, be sure to say that they are a wonderful couple, and that you sincerely wish them happiness.
Step 5
As if by chance, find yourself at those parties where she is. Don't force your communication on her when she talks to her friends. Let her notice you, say hello, and step aside. After that, most likely she herself will come up to you, at least with the words: "Oh, and you are here! And how did you end up here?"
Step 6
Think of an excuse to help and support her in some way. Do not impose your services on her, but do not wait when she asks. A proud girl will never ask for help herself. Your task is to control the situation and just be there at the right time.
Step 7
Make her come to the conclusion that she is better with you than without you. That with you it is easy, fun and not burdensome to work, and have fun, and relax. That you are always ready to support morally, to come to the rescue in word and deed. That you are a true friend.
