In almost every relationship between a man and a woman, there comes a moment when she decides to introduce him to his mother and father. This is a rather exciting period for a representative of the stronger sex, and phrases like “Don't be afraid, my mother and I have already talked about you” can only aggravate the young man's fear.
What is the best time to organize an acquaintance?
It is very important to catch the right period in time. Do not delay until a wedding or pregnancy, and confront your parents with a fact. This will be a clear disrespect and will give the girl's mother an opportunity to "nag" her in the future: "I told you that he is not a couple."
The ideal moment for dating is considered to be about the 3rd month of the relationship. This makes the parents understand that since you have been dating for quite a long time, you are unlikely to break up soon.
A few words about clothes
It is also important to strike a balance in this matter. You should not wear a suit and tie - you are not going to make an offer, but just get to know each other. But you can't come in a tracksuit either.
It is worth clarifying something here. In no case should you come to a meeting in shorts, no matter how hot it is. And trousers or jeans are everyone's personal choice.
There are three rules to follow. The nails on the hands of a young man should be trimmed - this time. If you are going to put on shoes, then they need to be varnished. And, of course, the face is supposed to be clean-shaven.
Do I need to give something?
Undoubtedly, you cannot come empty-handed to the girl's mom and dad. The mother, who may become your mother-in-law in the future, is supposed to give flowers. But don’t give one rose - it looks like you just decided to “shoot”. But lush bouquets are not entirely appropriate either. The most suitable option is flowers in a basket.
As for your girlfriend's father, you can give him a bottle of cognac. Also, as a gift, you can present a basket of fruits, watermelon, or ice cream.
Correct behavior is very important
When you enter the apartment of the girl's parents, do not immediately give her gift bags. You need to wait for the mother and father to come out with you to say hello and give them presents.
No need to sit imposingly on the couch, hugging your beloved. If her mom starts setting the table, ask if your help is needed, but if you have been assured that she will not be needed, do not insist.
You need to contact the girl's parents by name and patronymic. Even if, when they met, they only called their name, be sure to specify how you can call them. And only if they assure you that the name is quite enough, you can omit the full appeal, but they are strictly forbidden to "poke".
If you smoke, forget about your habit for this evening. You do not need to constantly glance at the balcony in the hope of "raising". But if the girl's father himself invites you to smoke, then you can agree.
Praise the meals prepared by the girl's mom. You should not violently deal with food on a plate, but, at the same time, it is impolite to sit all evening, picking the food offered to you with a fork. The hostess may think that you did not like something.
If there is an awkward silence at the table, try starting a conversation. But do not touch on the topic of politics, finance and economics, because the views on this of the girl's parents and you may be radically different.
You shouldn't stay up late at a party. When leaving, there is no need to come up with all sorts of excuses. Mom and dad of your beloved understand perfectly well that a well-mannered person will not stay at a party until late at night.
