Time flies so fast that sometimes we do not see how our children grow up. A grown-up daughter may show some psychological problems. As a rule, many parents do not notice them.
Instructions
Step 1
The girl has her secrets
Very often this begins to happen when the daughter turns 11-12 years old. At this age, she can close the door to the room, silently sit for a long time in thought and not particularly communicate. Of course, this begins to upset the parents. They are alarmed. And then they have a breakup alarm that they don't even know about.
The point is that the girl just leaves with the age of the child. She feels loneliness, anxiety or fear of the future, but this is normal for her, so when mom comes up and asks her daughter to tell the truth about what is happening to her, the child will wonder: what are you talking about, mom, is there something wrong?
What to do? It may be difficult, but you need to treat your daughter's secrets without anxiety. You just need to tell her something like this: if you want to talk, know that I am there. It will also be useful to share your own experience, not only to share with your daughter, but also to let her know that her mother is also human.
Step 2
If your personal life does not work out, you do not need to be afraid that your daughter may repeat your mistakes. Remember, the more you set your child up to do things differently, the more likely her daughter will repeat your life. Surprisingly, the installation leads to exactly the same effect: I will not live like my mother, I don’t want to live like that. If a mother wants her daughter to live happily ever after, first of all, she needs to change herself and take care of her own destiny.
Step 3
Mom got married again, and daughter is jealous - a common situation. Loneliness and jealousy of a daughter is born when my mother says: here I raised you, now it's time to think about yourself. A teenager always needs mom's attention. It is not so difficult to extinguish your daughter's jealousy of her mother, you just need to pay your attention to her as much as possible. For example, go to a cosmetic store with her, try on jewelry, discuss fashion, leaf through magazines, and so on.
Step 4
The daughter closes in herself and says that she is not like everyone else: ugly and awkward. This is a standard complex among teenagers. At such moments, all the problems are very deep in nature - abandonment, loneliness. Mom needs to teach a very important lesson for her daughter. It is necessary to tell her that she is unique and that she needs to love herself and her body. Show your daughter what real femininity is.
Step 5
The daughter begins to cheat. It is imperative to find out what is the cause of the lie. Is she afraid or worried? Most likely, she is afraid, because in adolescence, children lie to protect themselves. Most likely, the mother needs to weaken the environment in which she is raising her daughter, to accept her as she is, with all her sharp angles.
Step 6
Mom found out that her daughter was skipping school. Almost always, the reason for absenteeism should be sought in the school itself. Maybe there was a conflict that the daughter does not talk about. For example, a teacher yelled at her. Or, which is also possible, the daughter has lost all interest in her studies or the subject. Explain to your daughter that she is not attending school to reproach her, but to gain knowledge. Let her know that teachers are people just like you. Teachers also have their own principles, views and mistakes. Try to figure out why your daughter is not interested in a particular subject. Maybe it is taught by a bad teacher? It is also useful to tell your daughter about what you did in the same situation as you tried to arouse interest in a boring subject.
Step 7
The daughter has a boyfriend, but the parents are against the serious relationship of their daughter with "such" a guy. Never tell your daughter that she should not stay away from this guy, as the daughter will eventually move further away from you and will not tell you anything. Do not send her to other cities or to the village to see her grandfather, arguing that "you will be overcooked, you still will not succeed."
Better tell your daughter how to take care of herself. At lunch or dinner, think of her boyfriend, who is so wonderful and polite. This will give your daughter a different model of behavior. Your most important task is to teach your daughter all child protection measures. Go to the pediatric gynecologist, to the pharmacy, talk to her about frank topics. Try to avoid topics such as "I am an adult and I know exactly how you should live."
