There are situations when a man and a woman decide to create a new unit of society - a family. At the same time, the woman already has children, so that the man also has the role of not only a loving husband, but also a good stepfather who gets along with children. But how can you do this?
Instructions
Step 1
The relationship of children to their stepfather largely depends on how children relate to their mother, because it is this relationship that is true in the behavior and perception of children.
Step 2
Remember that love for you will not arise right away, so try to keep some distance at first. Your child needs time to get used to you, take a closer look and appreciate you. Do not frighten off friendship with him with an excessive desire to get to know him, let the friendship grow stronger.
Step 3
Try to understand one simple fact - you can never replace a child's real father, no matter how hard you try.
Step 4
The best option that will help win the child's favor is patience, kindness and courtesy towards his mother. The child's mother is the only person you and the child love deeply. Let him feel that you are happy to share with your mother and him all the sorrows and joys.
Step 5
If situations arise between you and your child in which you need to defend principles that are truly meaningful to you, do not show hostility, because the child, being in a state of distrust and resentment, will understand this as another cruelty. Better agree with him or say that you understand him perfectly, but think differently.
Step 6
Get ready for unexpected storms and explosions. It is normal for a child to be jealous, often showing this with aggression and unfriendliness. It is enough to have a little patience, and everything will pass. The most important thing is to stay calm. At first, for a child, you are the person who stole his mother, who belonged only to him. Spend as much time as possible together - relax, get out into nature, solve family and any other problems. Remember: people are always united by spending time together.
Step 7
Any situation in which the child is somehow friendly to you should not be ignored. Be sure to note that it is pleasant for you to be in a company with him.
Step 8
Don't ask your child to call you father, dad, or daddy, even if everything is going well. It will be better if he calls you by name, but it’s up to you to decide whether “you” or “you”.
Step 9
Avoid any conflicts with the real father of the child, because this will definitely not lead to anything good. It often happens that the stepfather and own father compete with each other in the choice of gifts and much more. As a result, a child can turn out to be an egoist who can manipulate people for his own benefit. You need to be partners, not rivals.
