When a loved one loses interest in work and self-development, it is worth considering. Perhaps the reason lies in chronic fatigue, disappointment, severe stress. Or maybe it's all about your relationship with him?
Instructions
Step 1
In the life of almost every adult, a moment of indifference or disappointment in their own activities can come. If before that the guy was burning with some goal and took concrete steps to implement it, then the onset of total laziness can be compared to a forced respite. Let him know that he has already managed to work once, and that there is more than a negative experience. And only those who do nothing do not have mistakes and failures. Perhaps the reason for idleness was a strong depressive experience, for example, a serious illness or the loss of a loved one. In this case, the help of a professional psychotherapist is needed.
Step 2
What if the guy refuses to work with the words "I just don't want anything"? In this situation, analyze not him, but your own behavior. It is possible that social roles have shifted somewhat in your relationship. If you work alone from dawn to dawn to feed and clothe you both, refuse to help carry a heavy bag or move a chest of drawers, then your assertiveness becomes the fault of the guy's passivity. Do not take everything on your own shoulders, distribute responsibilities, including financial ones. For example, one of you will vacuum the chair today, another will wash the dishes, someone will buy food for a week, and someone will pay part of the utility bills, etc.
Step 3
If you are dating not so long ago, pay attention to the relationship of the son with the mother. Maybe it was parental love that made him passive. Of course, parents, by definition, want to give their children everything to live without need. But very often they deprive the child of the right to make decisions for himself. When children grow up, they become indifferent to what to choose: white or red, thriller or comedy, sea cruise or snowy mountains, work or sofa. If you got just such a "copy", talk to him directly. Make it clear that you are not a mom who always has a saucer with a blue border at the ready. You need a man's shoulder and protection, not weak-willed behavior. Give him a chance: if he loves you, he will be corrected in the very near future, if not, leave this ballast and take care of your own life.
