There is nothing wrong with parenting differing opinions on parenting. This is a natural state of affairs. Most often, we choose the parenting model that our parents used, or its complete opposite, if we believe that we were raised incorrectly. Another bad thing is when the child himself participates in the process of clarifying the relationship between the parents.
A typical situation - the offspring does not obey the mother's requests to remove the toys or go to eat, and after long persuasion, the mother gives up. The dad passing by does not stand up and informs the child in an ultimatum that he will have to obey. But my mother has already surrendered, and the little tyrant feels it. Often, daddy even has to slap the child on the bottom to get his way. The child begins to cry and finds comfort in his mother. As a result, a verbal skirmish begins between the parents, which of them is right, and how to properly educate the offspring. At the same time, the spouses forget that the child continues to be around.
It is at this moment that an unconscious understanding comes into the child's head which parent is a “good policeman” and who is an “evil” one. Further, the child will definitely use the knowledge gained, and with his requests will always come to the "kind" parent.
That is why any negotiations regarding the upbringing of a child should not take place in his presence. And if the opinions of parents differ dramatically, you just need to find a compromise, combining polar views and taking the best from them. For a child, the main thing is that parents are consistent in their upbringing. Then he will clearly understand how to behave correctly, and what you expect from him.
Try not to patronize the child too much, otherwise from an early age he will get used to increased attention, and later he will do everything possible to get it. This also applies to bad behavior. The kid quickly realizes that lying quietly in the crib does not lead to constant attention from the parents. But if you throw something, break it or cry loudly, some kind of reaction will definitely follow.
In addition, try to get into the children's affairs of your beloved child as little as possible, if this does not pose a danger to him. Do you see that the child reaches for the toy, but does not reach it? Instead of bringing it directly into children's hands at the first call, give the baby the opportunity and time to figure out that it is possible to crawl up and take the toy himself. Encourage children's independence and remember to praise your child whenever he deserves it.
