There is a stereotype according to which girls choose as husbands those men who remind them of their fathers. In life, indeed, there are many examples of this.
Where did the stereotype come from that girls are looking for a guy who looks like a father?
From childhood, a certain warehouse of stereotypes is formed in the human head of how boys and girls should behave, how a family model should look like, what should be the relationship between a man and a woman, what is bad and what is good. All this comes from their parents, since children grow up in a family and learn about the world precisely through the prism of the vision of their ancestors. Since childhood, mothers try to put into the girl's mind how a woman should behave, what mistakes should be avoided so as not to repeat the mistakes of their parents. But is it right?
In prosperous families, where there is an exemplary dad, home, love and understanding, girls often try to make every effort to find a prototype of their beloved father. Find a loving person, a good dad for your kids. Sometimes these searches drag on for many years, many men do not pass the selection, each of them has something that is missing to the ideal that has developed in the subconscious.
Girls give up, there is an obsession that searches are useless, and there are simply no men like their dad anymore.
Every man is by nature a fighter. He is ready to fight for the goal, but if a man is compared with someone and they try to adjust his features to the established image, almost every self-respecting representative of the stronger sex cannot stand it and just leaves. In families where the father did not respect his family, girls from childhood take an oath never to mess with this kind of men. According to statistics, the attraction goes to young people with difficulties. And often everything happens so that the girl attracts men with a complex temperament. That is why they have many difficulties in relationships, scandals, showdowns. The more the girl hated that life with a bad father, tried to run away from problems and forget about the nightmare, the more difficult it will be for her in her family life. In addition, in the future she will have to deal with her husband.
Negativity will haunt her until the girl stops and tries to find the root cause of everything.
How do I resolve the problem?
Advice for girls who want to have a happy family - do not try to run away from problems, but try to accept your past and forgive your father for all his actions. Look deeply into your memory, forget offenses, remember only good things, love life as it is. Whatever father he is, thank him at least for giving you life! Let go of all the negativity and you will feel better. It is better to start a relationship with your partner with ease, because this is your life and a completely different story. Do not try to change someone or something, just turn life in a different direction!
