Becoming a mother is the most important thing for a woman. It is doubly joy if the father is also expecting the birth of his child. However, there are situations when, upon the news of pregnancy, the expectant mother becomes unnecessary.
Assessment of the situation
Despite the storm of feelings in such a situation, try to pull yourself together. Life doesn't end there. Look at it from the other side: if your boyfriend left you after learning about pregnancy, it was hardly worth continuing the relationship with him. Such a person will not become a reliable partner for later life.
Soberly assess the situation in which you find yourself. Consider if you have reliable people to whom you could turn for help, both moral and financial. These people can be your parents, friends, relatives.
Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself. This will not be the help you need. Also, do not identify yourself as the reason for the end of your relationship. In this situation, both partners are to blame. If a person has passed away from your life, then it was not your person.
Decision-making
One of the hardest things about being pregnant alone is making the right decision. There may be two options - leave the baby and have an abortion. Listen to your mind. He will help you make a choice.
If you decide to have a baby, consider your options for creating the necessary conditions. So, you must have a job, the earnings from which would be enough for you and your baby. In addition, financial support must be provided for the duration of parental leave. These can be payments at the place of work, as well as help from parents or relatives.
When you decide to have a baby, protect yourself from opposing opinions. Negative attitudes around you will negatively affect you and your baby. Explain to your family that you have made a firm decision. Over time, they will humble themselves and, perhaps, begin to help you. In any case, rely only on yourself, do not rely on hypothetical help from other people. This will make it easier for you to solve emerging problems.
Switch your thoughts to caring for your health and the health of your unborn child. Make this your new goal. Protect yourself from everything bad, annoying. Find something that gives you strength and positive energy. For some it will be music, for others - communication with animals. Surround yourself with pleasant things.
If, after carefully weighing everything, you decide to get rid of the child, contact the antenatal clinic. The psychologists working there will help you get through a difficult moment in life. In addition, gynecological specialists will provide you with the assistance you need.
