As the child grows up, it is important to be able to maintain a trusting relationship with him, no matter what. How not to become an enemy to your child?
Behave naturally by showing a genuine willingness to support and help. The main thing is not to "portray" anything, because adolescents, like children, very keenly feel any falsity, pretense in relationships. The most important thing is to maintain a trusting relationship with a teenager, only then he will trust you with his secrets and problems, and you, in turn, will be able to support him in time, help and timely warn him against mistakes.
Be prepared to adapt to changing situations
The child grows, changes, he does not have to be "convenient" for you - to preserve everything or return to the elementary school level will not work. As the child grows up, your relationship should also change, learn to respect his personality, opinions and views, welcome, within acceptable limits, his independence and initiative.
Do not “crush” with authority, but become an example to follow
The time of unconditional authority and belief in the "infallibility" of parents is over. Prohibitions, punishments and lectures will not help "make the child better", but will only turn him against you. The teenager is quite critical of his parents, noting, including negative qualities. You are no longer the ideal image of the best dad or the best and only mother in the world - a teenager sees you as a person with both positive and negative qualities, pays attention not to words, but to concrete actions. Therefore, try to be an example to follow. After all, nothing can have such a powerful pedagogical impact on a child as a positive example of parents - their ability to resolve conflicts, come to the rescue in difficult times, advice in any area, a wide range of interests and education.
Learn to maintain optimism and a sense of humor in any situation
This will relieve unnecessary psychological stress, defuse the situation and make your communication more positive and open. Seeing the world in bright colors, you share this look with a teenager - which means that he learns to cope with his impulsiveness, conflict, mood swings, and adolescence becomes not difficult for him, but the age of new discoveries and opportunities!
