Adolescence is the most difficult age for the teenager himself and the people around him. Still, after all, a person ceases to be a child, but still does not become an adult. His "I" requires self-affirmation, but he still does not have sufficient means to realize it.
Instructions
Step 1
When communicating with a teenager, take into account the fact that this age is characterized by various characteristics of behavior. There is a feeling of adulthood, mood swings, etc. At this age stage, the main desire of a person is to assert himself by any means.
Step 2
If your son or daughter does not like order, they strive to show their individuality in everything, take this as an inevitable tribute to adolescence. During this period, children often have such stupid ideas (according to adults), such as, for example, pasting all the walls of their room with posters of a rock band or a popular youth actor. At this age, "adult children" love to create idols for themselves.
Step 3
Be tolerant of your teen's quirks. They still cannot change anything, therefore, at least outwardly they imitate adults. Hence the attributes of "pseudo-adulthood" appear: smoking, alcohol, parties at the entrance, youth parties. Manners, gait, appearance change. The boy begins to waddle around with his hands in his pockets and spitting over his shoulder. New expressions appear in his speech. The girl studies fashion magazines, changes her hair color every week and pours out her discontent about her own appearance on her mother. They strive to prove to the whole world that they also have a personal life.
Step 4
If the teenager does not listen to your arguments and continues to lead a loose and hectic life, try not to scream, but to talk quietly and calmly, in a friendly tone. Try so that your tone is not edifying, act as a friend, it is friendship that people at this age value most.
Step 5
Try to understand the position of the teenager, try to be imbued with his interests, perhaps together you will come to a constructive solution to all problems, or to some kind of compromise.
Step 6
Know that by rejecting your help and control, your teen is showing a desire for self-reliance. You will have to accept and try to teach the "rebel" to be responsible for their actions.
