The relationship between the son-in-law and the mother-in-law has long become a classic of jokes, it seems that the mutual dislike of these close relatives is an integral part of any family. But is it really so?
The reasons for the mutual hostility of the son-in-law and mother-in-law
The son-in-law's dislike for the mother-in-law is usually always mutual. Rather, even the mother-in-law does not initially like the son-in-law, who feels this and begins to treat his wife's mother accordingly. There are many reasons why mothers do not like men of daughters. The thing is that mothers are mature, experienced women who, as a rule, see right through men. While the daughter looks at her lover through rose-colored glasses, the mother clearly notices all the flaws. Considering that there are no ideal people, everyone always has shortcomings, but a mother wants only the best for her daughter, so she is often unhappy.
Of course, mother-in-law and son-in-law are not always in conflict. It is not uncommon for these relatives to develop good friendships. This happens with really wise mother-in-law, who has enough tact not to focus on shortcomings. The coexistence of adult children and parents greatly contributes to the deterioration of family relations. Living under one roof inevitably leads to small domestic conflicts. Given this, in order to maintain good relations, the mother-in-law and son-in-law should live in different territories and intersect as rarely as possible.
Wife is a catalyst for conflict
Often the wives themselves act as the catalyst for conflicts between the son-in-law and the mother-in-law. Having quarreled with her husband, they rush to complain to their mother as soon as possible, telling in all colors how unlucky they were with a life partner, simultaneously recalling all the grievances and unpleasant situations. Moms, who are always worried about their children, end up winding themselves up even more. This is how the image of an enemy son-in-law, a reveler and a loafer, is created. In half a day, the wife will make peace with her husband and forget all the grievances, and all the worst will remain in the memory of the mother. If a wife complains to her mother every time she quarrels with her husband, the mother-in-law will never have a good relationship with her son-in-law. That is why, when getting married, every woman should know that her husband is the closest person, and it is impossible to complain about him to anyone, no matter how much one wants. All family conflicts must be resolved within the family, without involving other relatives in them.
Many men rack their brains, not knowing how to please their mother-in-law. In reality, everything is simple: you need to treat your wife well, love her and make her happy. Seeing happiness in the eyes of her daughter, the mother simply cannot help but love such a man. Do not forget also that the mother-in-law is, first of all, a woman, she needs to help with the housework, congratulate her on significant dates for her and do something pleasant.
