At an early age, each of the children above all else loves and values their mother. Even if she is cold with the child, even if she left him, even drinking, angry and screaming - the child loves her mother with unconditional love. But when a child grows up, he begins to distinguish between bad and good and realizes that his mother was far from the best in the world. Then a person can become imbued with her, if not hatred, then at least hostility. What is to be done by someone who does not love his own mother?
Instructions
Step 1
Know that if you do not love your mother, then it is best not to make this fact public. In society, the prevailing opinion is that whatever the parent who gave birth to a person - bitchy, oppressive, drinking or simply hating her child - the mother must be loved in any case, just by definition. Of course, you do not have to force yourself to love a person for the sake of public opinion, but you should not also declare your dislike for the woman who gave birth to you, if you do not want to be branded as strange, callous and ungrateful.
Step 2
First of all, finally admit to yourself that you do not love your mother. If you, even alone with yourself, continue to portray a loving child, then a huge amount of your vital energy is spent on maintaining this role. It is the discrepancy between what a person feels and what he is forced to broadcast to the world that sometimes lead to outbursts of anger and scandals. Call a spade a spade - at least mentally - and you will immediately feel how it became easier for you.
Step 3
Understand that you have a right not to love your mother, and try to shake off your guilt about it. Your dislike for the woman who gave birth to you is probably justified, and it took more than one day for you to stop loving her. Any adult sooner or later instinctively ceases to feel warm feelings for his tormentor, and this is an absolutely normal and natural process.
Step 4
Be aware that often enough to normalize your relationship with your mother and to communicate constructively between you, you just need to stop living with her under the same roof. If you still have not left and live in the same apartment, then it is natural that the constant presence of a person annoying you leads to abuse and scandals. Being at a distance from your mother, you can more objectively treat all her words and actions and try to finally accept her for who she is. Be that as it may, ideal people do not exist and no one is obliged to meet the expectations of another person. Anyone can make a mistake, but only a generous and highly developed person can forgive it and not remind of it endlessly.
