A mother-in-law is a person who, because of his immeasurable love for his own son, sometimes tries to get into other people's family relationships. However, even the mother of her beloved should not be allowed to do so.
Why does the mother-in-law climb into someone else's family?
If you are tired of the mother-in-law constantly interfering in your problems and giving you different advice, first of all you should figure out what is the reason for her behavior. It is unlikely that she does this from the fact that she wishes you harm. She just raised her son all her life, raised him as a real man, surrounded him with warmth and care, and then suddenly you appear in his life, and now her son stops spending time with his beloved mother. The reasons for this behavior may lie in maternal jealousy or simply over-caring for your already adult boy.
How to deal with a mother-in-law?
If you already understand what provokes your mother-in-law's hectic activities, it's time to politely and culturally put her in her place.
To get started, just try to have a heart-to-heart talk with your beloved spouse's mom. Explain to her that you in no way wish evil to her son, you know how she worries about him and loves him, but you love him no less. Tell her that you and her are pursuing the same goals, so you better not act against each other, but rally your forces and move together in the same direction.
If your kind and frank conversations still did not bring any positive expected result, it is worth doing differently. Step over yourself and prove to your mother-in-law that in reality you are not as bad as she thinks. Try to adapt as much as possible to the situation. Behave with her son as she herself would behave with him. Surround him with attention and care, constantly ask his mother for advice regarding a particular situation. Ask her to teach you how to cook or share her skills with others. Make her feel indispensable. Thus, she must understand that you are ready to listen to her and very much respect her feelings and her opinions.
If even with such a little trick the peace in your home is not completely restored, try to make her understand what it is like to be in your place. Also get involved in her personal family affairs and relationships with her husband with your advice, try to tell her how to behave correctly in a given situation. Moreover, this must be done carefully, but still a little intrusive. Over time, the curious mother-in-law should understand her mistake and try to stop meddling in your personal life.
