Our dear husbands. Once they took an oath of allegiance, promised to carry us in their arms and never offend us. But time passes, the hours of married life are ticking, everything changes. And now the partners in marriage are already more like two professional boxers who want to take over the enemy, no matter what. Again you have a family conflict. The husband again shakes his rights and refuses to help you on the simple grounds that he is a man.
It is necessary
Nerves of steel, patience, respect for yourself and your husband, the absence of sharp corners and objects in the apartment
Instructions
Step 1
Calm down after another skirmish. Now you understand that swearing and swearing will not reverse the situation. Men perceive a woman's voice simply as a sound background and do not at all go into what we say or shout to them.
Step 2
Remember the boring phrase that men are big children. Therefore, the methods of the upbringing process should be based on the same principle. In any educational process, the main thing is consistency and one's own example. And you also need to use the stick and the carrot in turn. Remember, your actions are important, not your words.
Step 3
Be clear about the problems that bother you. There is no need to answer the question - "what does not suit you" - with the word "EVERYTHING !!!!!!". You love him after all. Write to yourself an exact claim on paper - “he is very jealous for no reason”, “does not help around the house”, “limits money, although he has it”, “humiliates with friends”, “throws socks around the apartment” and other options for disgrace, which gets up your faithful.
Step 4
1) Begin to act calmly and consistently:
a) Doesn't put away the socks: ask them to put them away, then warn them that they will throw them away, then wait a few days (let them throw them around) and throw them out, preferably out of the window.
b) Doesn't help around the house (shop, trash, vacuum cleaner): ask for help, warn, then stop doing his job. This is the hardest part. After all, you cannot live like this, in the mud! But we must hold on. The main thing is that he understands the seriousness of your intentions. Wait for him to do everything himself. In no case should you come into conflict with him. Smile. Everything else - as always (talking, sex, visiting).
c) Doesn't give money: earn yourself, let him worry. After all, such tight-fistedness is a method of controlling you.
d) Walking with friends when you are all in trouble: arrange a noisy bachelorette party. Then he carries the "tired" friends home and washes the dishes. And you have a headache, well, so three days.
