These days, a single mother, unfortunately, is quite common. It is a rare case when a woman gives her child to her husband during a divorce. Of course, situations are very different, but many single mothers get to know a man who is ready not only to marry her, but also to raise her child.
It is then that a large number of mothers are faced with a very serious problem: whether the child will be able to get used to a new family member who will assume the role and responsibilities of "dad". Fearing change, mothers often neglect family life in favor of the child. Sometimes it happens that a woman neglects the opinion of the child, which leads to scandals and various conflicts. There are no definite recommendations, but it is worth discussing a few interesting questions that will arise with the advent of the "dad".
Dad or uncle after all? Many mothers do everything possible for their own child to call the new man in the family dad and encourage them in every possible way for this. Often mothers say that children came to this treatment on their own, but in fact, children are a sponge that absorbs everything that they hear from their parents. And, if you really want your child to call his uncle dad, you must lead to prove this not only with requests and encouragements, but also with gestures, mood and facial expressions. For example, when talking to a man, sometimes call him dad.
But, in addition to caring for the child, it is also necessary to remember about the man himself, because, having appeared in the family, he can become a protector, teacher, friend, but in no way a loving father, because the proud title of the pope places impossible duties and demands on the shoulders of a man.
It is important to understand that the relationship between a man and a child must begin long before the moment when they begin to live under the same roof, since a certain preparatory stage is necessary, during which the stepfather and the child must get used to each other and feel the safety of the neighborhood. It is not necessary from the very first days to try to stimulate communication between them, to look for any interests or forcibly nudge each other towards each other. It is best, under any pretext, to leave them alone for twenty to thirty minutes, you can send them to the circus, to attractions, to the theater or to the cinema.
After some time, you can begin to relocate a man to a family, not only for the whole day, but also for the night. Basic things like sharing meals and wishes for good morning and good night will create a cozy and friendly family atmosphere.
After all this, without fail, one day sit down together (you, the man and the child / children) and tell the child about your relationship and the desire to start a family. It is possible that the child himself will ask about this, but, nevertheless, such cases are rare.
