Modern times dictate their own terms. The modernization of everyday life, the success of women in various sectors of employment turned such a concept as "family values" upside down. It is no longer fashionable to be a cool hostess (as the books on home economics taught us); today, completely different requirements are imposed on a woman. These and many other processes of development of society naturally affected family relations.
Even a hundred years ago, it seemed simply amazing that women would receive education on an equal basis with men, serve in the army, and occupy leading leadership positions. But what about the family and its way of life in this case? In everyday life, modern technology came to the rescue, everyday issues are now solved by pressing the necessary buttons. Young mothers no longer seek to sit at home with their child and engage in its development; abandoning their careers is perceived as clinical idiocy and is widely condemned.
It turns out that the psychology of family relations no longer exists? Do you still have basic physiology and banal convenience to live "with one pot"? In fact, family relationships are currently undergoing a revolution. No one else is terrified by dads sitting at home with a child, more and more office mothers invite a nanny to help (and now this domestic staff has become a part of the everyday life of many families). But what about the relationship? After all, you cannot hire a "wife for an hour" in your place, and marriage is a space where you have to constantly work, it does not tolerate emptiness. And here "pitfalls" are hiding.
First, let's talk about family relationships between spouses. The worst option here is a significant preponderance in matters of spouse's income. Unfortunately, no matter how the man swaggers, in this version he almost always feels like a failure. Few manage to be a gigolo, for most men it is a painful blow to pride. Someone is looking for themselves in a hobby (and sometimes this is a way out - hiking, fishing), someone is realized by investing their ambitions in children (if it turns out to grow an athlete, a musician, a man automatically turns from a slacker into a coach). But, unfortunately, often a man looks for himself in the company of alcoholics, gambling addicts and the tendency to destruction is gaining momentum. If there are no compromises in the family, unfortunately the family falls apart.
The next option is that both spouses are workaholics and all the options for raising offspring are transferred to the nanny (in an easier version to the grandmother). Here, at some point, it turns out that all the affection went to a third person. Therefore, very often parents find in their apartment a completely foreign teenager (puberty and the difficulties associated with it were present before, but there was no such thing between generations). Sometimes a couple has a “new” child and, having done “work on mistakes,” gets away from the problem of unrealized parental feelings. Only now, a child who is unlucky enough to become a prototype often rushes to extremes - looking for dubious pleasures, showing aggression, leaving home. This is all the result of illiterate family relationships.
