The optimal age difference between spouses is considered to be a plug of three to five years. Psychologists, examining couples who have lived a long and happy family life, have come to this conclusion. But there are exceptions to all the rules, and this version of the specialists also contains additional points.
Age difference - if the woman is older
According to the same studies, it turned out that the "happy fork" at three to five years old works not only when the man is older, but also if the woman is older than that of her husband. Psychologists explain this by the fact that people born in one short period of time are most often interested in each other. They have something to talk about, most often there are similar memories of childhood, school, institute. They listened to the same music, watched the same films. As a result, they have formed the same outlook on life. And this helps them to find a common language, to cope with the difficulties of marriage. That is, it does not matter at all who is the eldest in the family - a man or a woman. A marriage with such a difference in age may well be a happy one.
Peers born in the same year, or with a small difference, are also able to create a strong pair. It is easy for them to be together because of their common interests.
Six - eleven years' age difference - what to expect from marriage
The next time interval is the difference between the age of the spouses in six - eleven years. In this case, it is already important enough that it is the man who is older. After all, if at twenty or thirty years such a difference in age is not yet too noticeable, then after forty it becomes obvious that the spouse is much older. Closer to fifty, she begins to have menopause, hormonal changes. At the same time, age-related changes in the face and body are becoming more and more apparent. While her husband is still relatively young and able to interest young girls. Therefore, if in such a marriage there were no strong feelings, respect and trust between the spouses, it most often falls apart.
There are exceptions to all the rules. There are couples where a woman is ten or more years older - and they live a happy life. You should not blindly trust the research of psychologists, you need to take into account your feelings.
More than eleven years of age difference
Such marriages are happy if the eldest spouse chooses a woman who is able to make compromises as his wife. He sees in her not only his beloved, but also a little child. He wants to instruct her, teach her. At the same time, he is ready to fully take responsibility for her life - to provide, solve problems, appreciate and love. And if a woman is ready to be sometimes compliant, a completely happy family can develop. And if she is very independent and with all her behavior shows that she does not need the care of a man, this can lead to disagreements and parting.
