One of the worst misfortunes that can happen to a person is the death of a child. After that, it is extremely difficult to return to the old life, many people cannot cope without outside help. However, parents need to pull themselves together and try to cope with their grief.
Instructions
Step 1
Grieving is a long-term process that can be roughly divided into four stages. The first stage is shock and numbness. It lasts about a week, perhaps a couple of days longer. Then comes the second stage - denial. The parent refuses to believe that the son is dead. It lasts on average up to forty days, after which the third stage begins - the pain residing. A person learns to cope with his grief, gets used to living in new conditions. After about six months, the fourth stage occurs - pain relief. It lasts up to a year. No matter how hard it is for you, remember that time will pass and you will inevitably feel relief. You just need to wait.
Step 2
Seek help from a psychotherapist - it is likely that he will prescribe you antidepressant treatment. Attend groups of bereaved parents. There you will be able to speak out surrounded by people who have experienced the same grief and will be able to understand you. If you live in a small town, and you do not have such groups, register on the forum where mothers and fathers who have lost their sons and daughters communicate.
Step 3
Let go of your guilt. Many parents begin to imagine that their child would be alive if they had not done this or that act. “If we hadn’t given him a bicycle, he would not have been hit by a car,” “if only I hadn’t allowed him to go for a walk that evening,” “if only I had taught my son to swim last summer.” Only those with supernatural abilities can blame themselves for what they could not foresee. Ordinary people should come to terms with the fact that the accident happened as a result of the coincidence of many factors, and this is not their fault.
Step 4
Mental pain can be compared to an exercise bike: you pedal, it takes a lot of energy, but the bike still stands still. Many mothers and fathers are fixated on their grief, they live it, not noticing anything around. Make a daily routine for yourself, temporarily not burdening yourself with heavy mental and physical labor. Get more rest. Allow yourself to be weak at times. Gradually, the pain will subside, and you can continue to live.
