One of the biggest difficulties in the relationship between a stepson or stepdaughter and a new parent is the problem that manifests itself in the attempts of the stepfather or stepmother to behave like a biological parent.
Instructions
Step 1
As a rule, children are very difficult to endure the divorce of their parents and therefore express their emotions with whims and bad behavior in relation to the new parent. In addition, even if the relationship is more or less established, it can worsen when a child is born in the family. The elder will think that he is superfluous and not needed by anyone.
Step 2
The most common mistake a stepfather or stepmother makes is that they try to become a father or mother to the child and behave accordingly. Of course, the child needs to be loved, but if there is a real parent, then the baby will not want to have another one.
Step 3
It is necessary to build relationships with the baby very slowly and carefully, without overstepping these boundaries, that is, not acting like a biological father. This is important even if the real parent shies away from their parenting responsibilities. If you adhere to this rule, the baby will eventually expand these boundaries and create a closer relationship with his stepfather.
Step 4
In addition, there is no need to spare time and effort to get to know the child better. You should not treat him as an enemy or ally. It is better to look at him as a loved one for your spouse. After a while, he will respond kindly. The main thing is not to rush things and wait for the child to take the first step.
Step 5
If there is a need to punish a child, then the real parent must do it. Often mothers and fathers feel guilty before the child for the divorce and begin to indulge him in everything. Despite the fact that the parent does not pay attention to the too naughty child, the stepfather or mother does not need to punish him. The best option would be to talk to your spouse and find out the reason for such gentleness in raising a child.
Step 6
A stepfather or stepmother has the right to educate but not punish a child and deserves the same respect as the biological parent.
Step 7
The new parent should understand that building relationships in the family usually takes 1, 5 - 2 years. This is a rather lengthy process, but as the child grows up, he will certainly appreciate a good attitude, endurance and patience towards himself.
