When a woman with children marries again, a new person appears in the family. He will have to improve relations with children and become a full-fledged replacement for his father. The stepfather does not always easily take root in the family. It takes some effort to keep the peace and tranquility.
Instructions
Step 1
With the arrival of the stepfather, the family's lifestyle changes, new rules and requirements appear. All this can be traumatic for the child, so in the early days of a new family life, do not force the development of relations. Keep a certain distance from the child who is still someone else's. Give him and yourself time to look at each other and get used to the new situation.
Step 2
Do not try to win the favor of someone else's child on the fly with gifts or insincere affection for his success. Children are very sensitive to falsehood and stop trusting such people. It is on trust that normal family relationships are built.
Step 3
In order for your child to fully trust you, spend more free time with him, helping him with solving problems, with studying or playing games with him. But don't be surprised if he shows jealousy from time to time. This is inevitable, children compare the stepfather with the father. The comparison is not always in favor of the new dad, be prepared for outbursts of emotions and protest from the child. Treat this with understanding and patience, be friendly and polite.
Step 4
Be careful in the moments of upbringing, so as not to look like a despot in the eyes of the child who dictates his own rules and procedures. But also do not shy away from the educational process. If you punish, then only for the cause.
Step 5
The child will inevitably be jealous of your mother. It is possible to cope with these only if he sees and understands that the stepfather sincerely loves the mother and her children. Do not try to resist this, the child should see you not as a competitor, but as a like-minded person.
Step 6
If a child periodically meets with his own father, it is possible that he will speak negatively about his mother and her new husband. Be smarter and don't allow yourself to be negative about your real father. You have an undeniable advantage: the opportunity to be close to the child and take daily care of him. Take advantage of this and patiently wait for the child to stop taking such statements from his own father and reacting to them.
Step 7
If new children appear in your family, try not to give preference to your own child. Naturally, the baby who is born will be in the spotlight, try to make the older child feel the joy of the appearance of a new family member. To do this, involve him in the general care of the baby, let the elder feel his responsibility and a special role in the upbringing of a younger brother or sister.
