When a relationship gets stuck and people decide to break up, they don't have to become enemies. Even when the gap turned into a scandal, you can try to improve relations with your former lover.
Instructions
Step 1
If you study the results of statistics, it becomes clear that a large number of couples, even after parting with each other, remain on friendly terms and do not always refuse sexual adventures with each other. The desire for intimacy after breaking up is not necessary, because you can just become friends, since you are still close people to each other. To build a good relationship with your former lover, arrange a meeting with him in some not too crowded cafe or in a park. Choose neutral territory for the conversation and try to put everything in its place.
Step 2
Have a chat and come to a general conclusion. You must understand what exactly led to the separation, that you no longer want to be together, but you do not need to become enemies at all. Tell your ex that you value the communication with him, you want to continue to spend time together, but not as lovers, but as friends.
Step 3
During the conversation, you should find out what exactly you did not like in each other's actions, what you expected from each other in certain situations. This must be done so that past mistakes and misunderstandings do not again escalate into quarrels and conflicts.
Step 4
If you managed to negotiate the restoration of friendships, start spending time together again. Go for walks, to cafes, chat with your mutual friends, remember only the good things from your past. Thus, you can save yourself and your former lover from past grievances, from feelings of guilt towards each other.
Step 5
Remember, friends are friends. You may not always be able to tell them about some personal intimate problems and experiences, but the former lover with whom you once shared a bed will probably be able to listen to you and help.
Step 6
Another positive aspect of building a good relationship with your ex is the ability to rebuild a closer relationship. If you become friends, chances are he and you will have new relationships. As you communicate with each other, you will subconsciously compare current and past relationships and, perhaps, come to the conclusion that you were better in the past than you are now.
Step 7
The main thing that you must do in order to make peace with your former lover is to communicate with him sincerely and honestly. Stop hiding your emotions and feelings from each other. If you find that you can trust your loved one, your relationship will bounce back.
