After the wedding waltz died down and the honey vacation ended, dramatic changes took place in life. A wonderful and smiling woman, whom your spouse calls mom, has suddenly turned from a friend into a grumpy and eternally disgruntled shrew. If you want peace in the family, you need to build relationships with your mother-in-law.
Instructions
Step 1
Live separately from your parents. Yes, the housing issue in Russia is still acute, and it is not always possible for a young family to acquire a cozy nest in the first years of marriage. But you can rent a house. Let the rented apartment be not as cozy as a four-room mansion in the city center, like your mother-in-law's. But you do not have to share space in the kitchen and listen to unnecessary advice every day.
Step 2
Listen to whatever your mother-in-law tells you. Do not cut it off in mid-sentence and do not say that you yourself know how to live. After all, no one forces you to do as the mother-in-law indicated. The main thing is to listen carefully, but you can act as you see fit. And then, suddenly, in the advice of your husband's mother there is also a rational grain.
Step 3
Do not ask or demand help from your husband's parents. Remember one important rule: your mother-in-law does not owe you anything. She does not have to sit with her grandchildren every day, lend you money, or sell a dacha to buy a car for your husband. If you are ripe to start a family, then you should be able to cope with everyday and financial problems yourself.
Step 4
Do not refuse to communicate with your mother-in-law, even if you are deadly bored listening to the fifteenth time in a row, what kind of harvest she harvested in the country last year or how much her pension was raised. You don't have to come to visit every day, but on family gatherings and sometimes on weekends, try to get together. The mother-in-law must see that her son looks good and is surrounded by affection and love.
Step 5
Learn to perceive the actions of your mother-in-law with patience and good humor. After all, the older the parents get, the more attention they need. And the woman who gave birth to and raised your husband should be treated with care and understanding. And remember that the day is not far off when you yourself will be called mother-in-law. Would you like to have a daughter-in-law as you are?
