It happens that grandparents actively interfere in the upbringing of grandchildren. When their opinion goes against the position of their parents, you need to find some kind of behavior tactics in order to defend your values and not provoke a scandal with the older generation.
Instructions
Step 1
Understand that sometimes grandparents behave aggressively because they don't feel needed in the family. As soon as you begin to demonstrate that their opinion is important to you, that you are interested in how they look at this or that issue, that you love them, respect, value their life experience and count on their help, they will stop interfering in your relationship. with children when they are not asked to.
Step 2
Try to distance yourself from overly active relatives. Tell them less about your plans if you know that you will be criticized. Do not touch on topics where you and the older generation disagree. Do not provoke arguments and conflict situations.
Step 3
Another trick to keep the peace in the family, but do it your own way, is visible consent. Nod your head when your mom and mother-in-law talks about how you need to raise your children, don't mind, just keep quiet. Without meeting obvious resistance, they will calm down faster.
Step 4
Talk to your parents, discuss the upbringing of your children and their grandchildren. Ask how they see their grandchildren in the future, what qualities they would like to observe in them. Perhaps this way you will understand the motives of their actions and at least partially agree with their educational measures. In any case, the position of grandparents will become closer to you when you learn how they are guided in their beliefs.
