According to the conclusion of the extras, 25% of marriages in modern society fall apart due to the fact that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law could not make friends. Because of women, each perceives a man as a blanket that needs to be pulled over herself. But as popular wisdom says, there is no need to destroy the enemy - it is better to turn him into a friend.
Of course, sometimes the mother-in-law perceives the daughter-in-law as a daughter: she loves, treats with understanding, accepts all the shortcomings and supports in every possible way. But this is not always the case: the husband's mother interferes in the life of the young in every possible way, gives advice about and without reason, teaches, tries to re-educate the children, etc.
When meeting the mother of your future husband, try to make the most positive impression, be sure to bring a small gift or treat to the table, do not dress or act provocatively. During tea drinking, more often contact your future mother-in-law with a request to tell her about your beloved boy, what food he prefers, what kind of music he enjoys, which sections he attended during school, and so on. Such behavior will surely endear the future mother-in-law to you, she will understand that her son is interesting to you as a person and that you are worried about all his affairs.
Of course, it is better for a young family to live in a separate apartment, but not all newlyweds can afford it. If you have come to your husband's house, then in no case should you try to remake the way of the household that your mother has been forming for many years.
Personal (intimate) life is the life of two people, that is, a husband and wife. Any encroachment on her by the mother-in-law should not be hushed up. An attempt to turn a husband against his mother is unlikely to be crowned with success, but a frank conversation with the mother-in-law will help more.
From time to time, consult with your mother-in-law on this or that occasion, the husband's mother will feel in demand and the relationship will change for the better. It is not at all necessary to follow the advice, the main thing is to make it clear to the mother-in-law that her opinion and life experience are very important to you.
To appease a mother-in-law, you need to praise her from time to time, because, as they say, a kind word is pleasant to a cat. You can praise openly for a delicious borscht or a purely instrumental apartment, for helping children prepare lessons, and so on, or you can make it smarter, colorfully tell your husband about all the virtues of his mother. Be sure that your spouse will not hold back and will definitely pass your conversation on to your mother-in-law.
Finding out the relationship with your husband, in no case do not involve the mother-in-law, and vice versa. Never tell your husband badly about his mother, because she was the main woman in his life before your appearance. Swearing with your husband, do it in private, without giving your mother-in-law any details. By building a conflict triangle according to the principle "wife - mother-in-law - husband", you can achieve only one thing - the deterioration of relations between all family members.
Probably, many girls ask a similar question, why should I adapt to my mother-in-law? The answer is simple and obvious. You came to your husband's house, you took his last name, and in the end, the mother-in-law is the woman who gave birth to and raised your man.
