Divorce is common today. Many families break up every day, these are the realities. After a while, a woman finds herself another man, remarries. The child does not always have a relationship with his stepfather. But you can look at this situation from the outside, and then, perhaps, it will be easier for you to accept your mother's new husband into the family.
Instructions
Step 1
Of course, you cannot forget your father, because he treated you very well and will forever be a loved one for you. But if mom has chosen a new man, take a closer look at him. Try to find positive traits in his character. If he loves your mother, then he is also not indifferent to you. Don't push his friendship away. After all, being friends with your stepfather does not mean betraying your father.
Step 2
Do not make claims to your mother, do not accuse her of paying a lot of attention to her stepfather. She, too, has the right to happiness. Of course, she wants everything to be good in your new family. Do not make her jealous. By doing this, you will cause her suffering. Try to communicate more with her, talk about your affairs, ask for advice. Spend more time together as a threesome. Invite everyone to go to the movie premiere or just take a walk in the park.
Step 3
Understand that mom would be lonely without a loving man and faithful friend. After all, you have friends with whom you spend your time, communicate, why do you want to deprive your mother of this opportunity? From the fact that a man appeared in her life, she did not love you less. Be glad that she now also has a reliable friend.
Step 4
If your stepfather is trying to establish some of his own prohibitions and rules for you, talk to him, let him explain what caused this. He really worries that you stay with friends for a long time and return home late at night, or just wants to show his masculine power. From the answer, you will understand whether his intentions are sincere. If this excitement is real, try to calm it down, tell us what places you have been and who is accompanying you. If you feel false in his words, then offer compromises on your part, but demand the same from him.
Step 5
Don't rush things. Don't demand immediate love from your stepfather. After all, it is also not easy for him to get used to a new family. Perhaps he has children from his first marriage, and he misses them very much. Ask him about them. You will see how his eyes will warm up. Maybe from now on you will begin to develop a more friendly relationship. But it will take more than one month to establish full contact.
