Jealousy is a common feeling. Especially young girls. Moreover, they are not necessarily jealous of their chosen ones in the present tense. Quite often, the young person's past becomes the object of their close attention. Psychologists, on the other hand, assure you that you need to get rid of the habit of being jealous of the past quickly and radically.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, accept the fact that your young man had a past. After all, you, too, were friends with someone, met someone, went on dates. The main thing is not what happened, but what is at the moment. Think about the fact that he chose you, which means that he has no one dearer and dearer than you. Therefore, it is very foolish to be jealous of something that has no longer mattered to him.
Step 2
In the event that your boyfriend regularly compares you to your ex-girlfriends or wife, it is very difficult to come to terms with this. But still, for the sake of your own health and well-being, it is worth doing it. First, talk to your man, explain to him what exactly you do not like in such comparisons. A truly loving person should understand you and try to improve. The only thing that needs to be taken into account is that the conversation needs to be conducted without tears, tears, hysterics. This will not lead to the results you want to achieve.
Step 3
If your man does not give you reasons for jealousy, but the very fact of having past romances bothers you, try switching. Find something you like to do - it can be a hobby, additional training, meeting friends, etc. This tactic of behavior will bring you only advantages. You can diversify your life, take your free time. And your boyfriend will become much more interesting with you. And if he sometimes remembered his past sometimes, now he will definitely not be. After all, you can diversify his life as well.
Step 4
In the event that the reason for your jealousy of his past was your lack of confidence in yourself and your merits, urgently change the situation. Become the best chef in your home kitchen, change your image, start taking care of yourself. Each time your loved one will wait with interest and be surprised at the metamorphosis that has taken place. For example, every day you will meet him for dinner with a new dish of various cuisines of the world. Or you change your hairstyle in such a way that there will be some kind of zest in your image. In addition, for such changes, you will not have time to think about your man's ex.
Step 5
If, despite all the measures taken, you still continue to be insanely jealous of your man for his past, go to a psychologist. He will help you understand what is the reason for this behavior, will tell you why you cannot cope with your emotions, despite the complex of measures taken. Perhaps the reason for such a phobia lies somewhere very deep in your mind, and you just can't deal with it.
