If your partner has already had a serious relationship before you or was married, jealousy of the past may arise. Moreover, even if the previous relationship has ended long ago and does not pose a threat to the current relationship with you. A subconscious desire to be the unlimited owner of your beloved, jealousy of ghosts can lead to scandals, baseless accusations, fading of feelings and rupture.
Instructions
Step 1
To curb your jealousy of your partner's past, you need to start with yourself. You can unwittingly give rise to suspicion if you yourself constantly appeal to long-forgotten people who once played an important role in your life. Mentioning the former lover in a conversation with the current one is not just undesirable, it is strictly forbidden. And it will be even more insulting to compare your soulmate with the previous partner.
Step 2
Frankness in a relationship is needed, but let it be selective. Of course, it is quite natural to be interested in the person with whom your beloved lived before you met. However, you should have the wisdom and discretion to simply take note of the facts from the life of your partner. These data should not become destructive thoughts, a topic for self-criticism on the subject: "He talks about his ex, so he still loves." Moreover, scandals about jealousy of your former personal life can provoke lies, secrecy of your partner. And, like a crown of jealousy, a broken relationship.
Step 3
To prevent your partner's past from ruining your present, just try to refer to him as little as possible. Do not provoke your loved one into memories and frank conversations about facts from a past life that may hurt you. And even more so, do not torture him for details of sexual life with a predecessor. The stupidest thing on your part is to try to find your ex-lover and have a heart-to-heart talk. Nothing, except irritation and bewilderment in both, you will not cause this.
Step 4
The issue of mutual trust will always be relevant in a couple. Resist the temptation to check his phone, mail, and personal items. Especially if you know for sure that your soul mate has business, friendship or common children with your ex. Jealousy gives its distorted interpretations of everything. A jealous person is able to interpret an innocent sms as evidence. Trust each other. Love checks are inappropriate.
