Many parents face jealousy, quarrels and misunderstandings between children in the family. How can you bring your children to harmony, peace, friendship?
Instructions
Step 1
Respect your children first and foremost. Respect the older child. Respect their feelings, desires, emotions, the right to be yourself and find your own path. This will teach your child to respect you and other people. Ask your child's opinion as often as possible, this will show that his opinion is meaningful, and also teach you to have your own opinion. Asking for an opinion, you will be able to understand how your child lives, therefore, you will form a trusting relationship. It is important not to forget to reckon with the opinion, if you already asked him. It is very important to remember to praise and be proud of your children to build respect.
Step 2
Never compare children with each other. Otherwise, you will only increase competition, rivalry between them, exacerbate their relationship.
Step 3
Rejoice, praise any manifestation of the elder's concern for the younger. Of course, it is easier and faster to help a child get dressed, put on shoes, and comb their hair than to entrust it to an older child. But the joy and pride of an elder will serve you as a worthy reward for your patience.
Step 4
Do not force the elder to share toys with the younger, say: "If you want, you can share, give in …". Let him decide for himself what he wants to do. If he shares it, praise him, tell him that you really liked his decision, how he did it.
Step 5
Also, do not let the younger child spoil the things, drawings, etc. of the older one. After all, the elder tried very hard, painted, made, built, made crafts. This is his work, his thing. By doing this, you will teach children to respect the work of other people, to value not only their own, but also other people's things. Do not let the younger offend the older, teach the children to set boundaries: “Stop, I don’t like this, I can’t be beaten,” and so on. Do not require the elder to endure the younger's resentment, so you will only consolidate the behavior of a trouble-free person in the future.
Step 6
If children are quarreling, do not pass by - help them resolve the conflict. Do not be biased, do not act as a judge, do not label victim and aggressor. Don't ask for anything at this moment. If appropriate, turn the situation into a joke, etc. On the contrary, remind them how well they can play together, how obedient, good, and friendly they are. Emphasize, reinforce, switch them to positive sides, emotions.
Step 7
Sometimes the older child has strong jealousy of the younger, do not be intimidated and do not scold him. Listen carefully to him, ask clarifying questions. Help the elder understand his feelings. Say that you understand him, his experiences are important to you. Help deal with the situation.
