A man's attitude to money is that delicate issue that can put an end to a possible romance in just one date. Recently, the gigolo has been replaced by the so-called "half-men" - a new generation of men who demand from women an equal financial contribution to the family budget. Often, for the weaker sex, such a position is deliberately disadvantageous. How to recognize a "half-man" at the very beginning of a relationship, so as not to be disappointed in the future and not get addicted to him?
Who are “half-men” and why are relationships with them dangerous?
"Half-cutters" or "half-men" consider the family union from the point of view of commodity-money relations. As a rule, the financial separation in such pairs begins with the proposal to pay equally for the entire common life - utilities, food, entertainment, vacation. Some women, inspired by European values of gender equality, accept these rules of the game. Although, in terms of the division of responsibilities around the house, the "half-man" may not be so principled and willingly agree if the life partner takes over all the housework.
But the unsightly side of a relationship with such a man opens up at the very first financial difficulties. Pregnancy, illness, maternity leave or any other reason for disability will not in any way affect the distribution of a woman's contribution to the general budget. The "half-man" will agree to keep it only in debt, while he will maintain strict control of all expenses and demand a refund at the earliest opportunity. On his part, reproaches and insults may appear due to financial insolvency: "freeloader", "dependent", "kept woman".
Women who have become dependent on such men are deprived of their maternity benefits, child benefits, their last savings and are literally forced to flee to work, despite a small child or health problems. Subsequently, they have to pay off debts to their own husbands or cohabitants for several more years.
By his behavior, the "half-man" devalues any form of relationship in a pair, except for money. He can “generously” write off part of the debt at the expense of sex, perform some duties for him, or expand the scope of his freedom. For example, such a man will tell his wife that he will not come home to spend the night, and she has no right to reproach him, since he does not work.
When the relationship with the "half-man" has gone too far, it will not be possible to get out of them without losses. In fact, alarming bells in a man's behavior can be noticed at the beginning of the acquaintance. Then you will be able to avoid disappointment and regret about wasted time.
How to recognize a “half-man” on a date
One can already suspect a "half-man" in a man on the first date. To do this, it is enough to take a closer look at his behavior and words. For example, he may come to a meeting without flowers and joke that he is not ready to spend money right away, because he is not sure of the continuation of the acquaintance.
The money issue for such men is a sore subject, so they can, to one extent or another, constantly touch upon it when communicating. The girl should be alerted by conversations about female commercialism, complaints about financial difficulties, recognition of non-payment of alimony to children from past relationships. If a new acquaintance is sorry and has little money for himself, then he is hardly ready to spend money on his wife or children.
Very often, the "half-man" hides behind European values, praises women's independence and self-sufficiency. He is firmly convinced that he is not obliged to support anyone, despises the "dependent" and "kept women". On the contrary, he can proudly tell a new acquaintance how his mother selflessly dragged everything on herself.
In addition to this, any service or request for help is perceived by him in the format “what will I get for it”. The "half-man" welcomes barter relations, so he agrees, for example, to help a girl with a leaking tap only in exchange for a delicious dinner.
In the conversations and behavior of such a man, it is easy to notice pettiness and unjustified greed. Whether it's stories about a chocolate bar spent on a girl, or worries about the gifts left by the ex-wife after the breakup.
And of course, the apotheosis of a date with a typical "half-man" will be the proposal to split the bill. Alternatively, he can pay for everything with the obligatory condition that next time you will also pay for him. In general, the division into "yours" and "mine" will be constantly traced in his behavior. For example, if you find yourself in a store together, he will pay at the checkout only for his purchases, tacitly offering to take care of himself.
Of course, it is not shameful for a woman to pay her own expenses. Moreover, if its financial position is stable and safe. But in a relationship with a "half-man", this path will turn out to be a losing one in advance. On the basis of material independence, you will get a greedy man, a gigolo and a freeloader, with whom even your favorite work will turn into compulsory hard labor without the right to rest or fatigue.
Already on the first date, a man should understand that you are not satisfied with this format of relationship. And he can either reconsider his approach to the distribution of finances, or continue searching for the ideal partner without your participation.
