When choosing a life partner, it can be scary to make a mistake. You may not notice a very good, but modest person and be carried away by a handsome man with vague moral principles. It is important to understand that there are no ideal people - everyone has some flaws. You need to decide which qualities of the chosen one you are willing to put up with and which you consider unacceptable.
Instructions
Step 1
Three models of relations between a man and a woman can be distinguished: - "brother and sister" - equal partnerships; - "mother and son" - a woman leads, a man obeys; - "father and daughter" - a man leads, a woman obeys.
Step 2
Think about how your relationship with guys usually goes and what role you play. If you like to command and keep your partner subservient, it is unlikely that an alliance with a tough macho will be happy, even if the guy is handsome, popular and your friends envy you. Someone will have to change - you or him. Decide for yourself whether you are both ready for such a change and whether you will be happy by stepping over yourself.
Step 3
If you think that a man should be the head of the family, there will be no disagreement with a real macho about this.
Step 4
Try to soberly assess the guy's attitude towards you. Pay attention to how obligatory he is - whether he keeps promises, whether he is late for dates. Irresponsibility is a flaw that can ruin any relationship.
Step 5
If a guy has habits that you don't like, is he ready to give up on them? The desire to please you and to sacrifice something in the name of love is a very important quality.
Step 6
Pay attention to the guy's attitude towards drinking. None of his virtues can compensate for the horrors of living with an alcoholic. Actually, there will be no merits, because this defect leads to a complete degradation of the personality.
Step 7
Perhaps you feel that the guy is no match for you - not so educated, provincial, or not too rich. See if he is ready to develop - to study, work hard, raise the cultural level. If so, your love can be a good incentive and a happy future awaits you.
Step 8
It is very important how a guy speaks about his ex-girlfriends. If he talks nasty things about them, blames them for all their sins and reveals their intimate secrets, you can be sure that sooner or later he will tell the same about you.
Step 9
Take a closer look at how the guy treats family and friends. Is he ready to sacrifice something for a loved one and, at the same time, does he know how to defend his point of view, if he is sure that he is right? It is unlikely that you need a callous egoist or a spineless type who is ready to yield to any pressure as a life partner.
Step 10
But, perhaps, the most important condition for family happiness is mutual understanding and common interests. If you are active and mobile, go to exhibitions and concerts, and the guy prefers football on TV and beer to everything, conflicts in the future are almost inevitable. A peaceful and happy life will be possible if both of you are willing to let the other rest to their liking, without trying to remake your partner in your own way.
