This is a perennial problem in parent-child relationships. How to get rid of it?
Instructions
Step 1
If you are still in the parental position, then it is time to change it. You need to communicate with an adult child on an equal footing. As an adult with an adult. You are still trying to dominate, but your children already have children of their own, and some even have grandchildren. Is it possible in such a state of affairs to consider your children dependent? Of course, in this situation, it is quite difficult to come to an understanding. Still, try to communicate as equals.
Step 2
Respect your children's decisions. Whatever they are, these are only their decisions. They themselves will choose what they need. Do not try to impose your point of view, because now you can only advise.
Example:
You tried so hard to get your son to work, and he suddenly decided to leave this place. Naturally, this is not to your liking. But if you respect your child, you say: "I believe in you and hope that at your new job you will be better."
Step 3
Of course, every parent tries to protect their child from failure. It `s naturally. But do not confuse children's experiences with their own. If you are disappointed, it does not mean that your child will be overtaken by trouble in the same field. Let your kids make their experiences through trial and error.
Step 4
Don't be selfish. It gets in the way of building good relationships. Try to take the place of your son or daughter, this will help get rid of selfishness. You need to take into account the interests of children, and not just think about yourself. Maybe the answer to the question: "What problems does my child have?" help you understand it.
Step 5
Think back to your child's childhood. Maybe he needed something? Did you miss something? Is it possible to give it to him now?
Step 6
Stop unnecessarily advising. When you give unsolicited advice, you seem to emphasize your superiority. By advising, you do not allow the child to be responsible. If a person lives by order, he involuntarily becomes irresponsible.
Step 7
Channel the energy into your own life. It's so wonderful when the children are already adults, and you are still full of energy. If you want to interfere in someone else's life, even if it is even the life of your children, then you put an end to yours. And this is very sad. Maybe you should try to change everything?
Step 8
Your children have many virtues. Think about them in those moments when you want to be offended.
Step 9
Under no circumstances, under any pretext, do not raise your voice to adult children. You don't shout at your colleagues.
