Any woman, going down the aisle, wants to avoid conflicts with her mother-in-law. If everything is going well anyway, that's great. But things don't always go well. How to be?
Instructions
Step 1
Try to get to know your husband's mom better. That she is interested in what she is fond of. Maybe she has a hobby. If her hobby is music, take her to a concert. Prefers painting - invite to an art gallery. Maybe she loves movies? Then buy your cinema tickets. There are many options. Up to a joint shopping trip. This is a great opportunity to bond.
Step 2
A common cause always brings them closer together - it means that it is worth offering the mother-in-law help around the house. Another common topic of conversation will not hurt you. For the sake of a happy married life, you should step over yourself and take the first step towards rapprochement with your husband's mother. This should give a positive result.
Step 3
Polite and tactful communication with your mother-in-law is another plus for you. Remember, she gave birth to and raised your husband. And her age must be respected. Let her know that you think she is smarter and wiser than you are. It's nice anyway. There is nothing wrong with asking her for advice sometimes.
Step 4
Don't be afraid of your second mom. If you feel fear of her, you can instinctively begin to "defend" against her. And this "defense" is exactly what will cause the "attack". Ask her opinion more often. This will contribute to your good relationship.
Step 5
Do your best to live separately from both mums. This will make it easier for both you and your spouse.
Periodically invite your husband's mother to visit just for a chat over a cup of tea or coffee. You need to be interested in her work, health. Ask how her pets are doing.
Step 6
The mother-in-law will be pleased if you sometimes trust her grandchildren. But not too often. In a conversation with your husband, talk only good about his mother. If a conflict does arise, never involve your beloved one in it. It is unknown which side he will take.
Step 7
Offer your mother-in-law any help. Don't forget about holidays and gifts. Do not flatter, always be yourself. Insincerity is usually negative. Always maintain strict neutrality between your husband and his mother. Otherwise, nothing good will come of it. You shouldn't even try to be better than your mother-in-law. Mom will always remain a mother for him, and you will be his beloved wife.
