Divorce should not be a reason to stop communicating with your ex-husband, especially if you have children in common. A friendly relationship with your ex-spouse is not only not forbidden, but it can also be a great help for your new life.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about the positive traits of your ex-spouse. Of course, immediately after a divorce, there is no strong desire to remember the person who upset or offended you. However, without this, you will not be able to establish normal relations. Think about what you liked more about your ex-husband than you admired. It can be delicious scrambled eggs or a virtuoso guitar playing, a sweet smile or songs in the shower. Set yourself up for the fact that your ex-spouse is not a monster, but a normal person.
Step 2
Make an appointment with your ex-husband. It will not work to improve relations in absentia, even with a strong desire. Make an appointment at a park or cafe. Please note that the meeting point should be neutral, i.e. your apartment won't fit. This is necessary so that both you and your ex-spouse feel psychologically on an equal footing.
Step 3
Discuss all your questions. Talk about how you will organize time for communication with children, how family holidays and birthday of the child will be celebrated, how you will give gifts. Discuss the possibility of joint walks or trips out of town. Remember that the child should not suffer from the fact that his parents did not get along with each other. But you shouldn't step over yourself either. Your bad mood will not bring joy not only to you, but also to your child.
Step 4
Set yourself up to want to befriend your ex-husband. Let him know about your decision. Thank him for everything he gave you. Whatever your marriage, it has been an invaluable experience for you. In addition to quarrels and swearing, there were also pleasant, heart-warming moments in your life. Let your ex-spouse understand that he remains a part of your life, just in a different context.
Step 5
Maintain relationships with each other. This does not mean that you have to call or meet every day. Just try to communicate on a friendly note, forgetting about all the omissions and resentments.
