It just so happened that living side by side with a loved one, we get used to a calm, measured life. But as time goes by, you change, your circumstances and your ideas about happiness in marriage change. And so that family life is filled with joy again, adhere to the general rules.
Hug more
People are social creatures, and the skin is the main organ of touch. Cuddle as often as possible with your partner. It will give you a sense of calm and serenity. After all, here he is, smelling so familiar. At this moment, our brain unconsciously draws an analogy: "I am in my mother's arms and I feel good."
Don't complain about your partner
Of course, this does not mean that one should be silent as a partisan. But even a person whom you have known for a short time should not be “washing dirty linen in public”. Moreover, one should not discuss a partner with someone with whom he may meet in the near future. If you want to speak out, then let it be one person in whom you are absolutely sure. If there is none in your environment, then make an appointment with a psychologist.
Give thanks
We often forget about the word “thank you”. But surely, each of you, is doing something good for the family. And it is important for each of you that these efforts are noticed. So the phrase: “Thank you for being so considerate of me” has a magical effect.
Stay just two
A happy marriage is not possible without shared experiences. Ask grandparents to look after the children, and take a ticket to a holiday home for two yourself. Agree that you won't be using gadgets this weekend. Take a walk, visit SPA procedures together, stay together in unusual conditions.
Control what is said
The main words that start a quarrel are: "you always" and "you never." It is necessary to say what you do not like, but you need to do it correctly. For example, instead of: "You are always late," it would be more correct to say "I really want you to come on time tomorrow."
Don't criticize without asking
It is quite possible to do without criticism in family life. After all, when assessing your partner, you are taking a position “from above”. But you are not a teacher and a student, but a husband and wife. Therefore, one should not evaluate the action of the partner if he does not ask for it. Even so, note the strengths first. And only then proceed to your assessment.
Find a healthy compromise
A compromise is when the spouses understand that they are different people, and each has his own point of view, but at the same time there is a desire to negotiate. Many couples mistake compliance for compromise. Agreeing to something that you do not like initially and waiting for gratitude for it. In this situation, the second spouse has no way to find out what you like. Hence all the grievances and disagreements.
If quarrels have become more frequent in your family, sex has disappeared and you don't want to go home from work, these are not problems, but only their reflection. As difficult as it gets, take the time, step over your feelings, and talk to your partner. Perhaps at some point you simply did not hear each other.
