In serious, long-term relationships, some women want variety and flirt with other men. Business is not always limited to innocent flirting, sometimes it comes to full-fledged betrayal. In this case, the question arises before the unfaithful wife - how to tell her husband about the betrayal and whether it is worth doing it.
Instructions
Step 1
First, decide whether to tell your spouse about your mistake. If this happened to your mutual acquaintance, it is better to tell as soon as possible so that your husband finds out from you. But it is quite another matter if the betrayal occurred while traveling with a stranger from another country. Maybe you should keep silent about your betrayal? After all, honesty can destroy your relationship, humiliate your spouse and destroy his world. Do you want this?
Step 2
Find the right moment. Such a conversation should take place one-on-one, without strangers. Prepare some water and sedatives as your spouse may need them. Choose the right time, such as a weekend morning, so you don't have to deal with serious or complicated matters. No meetings or important events should be scheduled for this day. A man should be rested, well-fed, calm and not upset by anything. Then your news will not be the last straw of his patience, and there will be an opportunity to discuss what happened.
Step 3
Offer to sit down before speaking. Admit to cheating, and try to soften the reasons for such an act. If before that you had a big fight or you did not feel attention to yourself, please report it. But don't say the problem is your spouse's inability to please you. Now you need to show that you are sorry about what happened and want to improve your relationship.
Step 4
Let your husband say whatever he thinks. Ask him that the spouse speaks, scolds, shouts, and does not keep everything to himself. The faster he throws out his emotions, the easier it will be to experience them. Do not talk in detail about sex, do not praise your partner, limit yourself only to general words.
Step 5
Reassure him that it was a mistake and you are terribly sorry for what you did. Beg me to give you a chance to make things right, promise that this will never happen again. Reassure him of your feelings, and that it was a momentary clouding of his mind. But don't try to explain cheating with alcohol. In this case, every time you drink, he will remember the betrayal.
Step 6
Allow time for your spouse to think about what happened and understand himself. If he wants to be alone, retire to another room and do not go to him. Wait until he is ready to speak to you again.
Step 7
Be prepared for the ruin of your relationship. Not all couples are able to close their eyes to what happened and pretend that nothing happened. Even if you do not separate, the relationship will not be the same.
